Dealing with Mr.Charisma

Apr 12
21:00

2002

Peter Murphy

Peter Murphy

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Do you ever find yourself in situations where you feel
overwhelmed by the person who is speaking to you. It is as if
their charisma and enthusiasm takes over and you just cannot seem
to think for yourself. For a moment you are lost in a blur of
their words.

The worst part is the fact that you cannot seem to regain
composure or even assert your own opinion. What is the solution?

How to assert yourself in the face of a wave of charisma:

1 Break Rapport

What? Yes,Dealing with Mr.Charisma Articles break rapport but do so gently by adjusting your
posture and by changing your rate of breathing. Mr.Charisma has
you locked into deep rapport with his every word and every
movement.

Until you regain your own pace, your own natural breathing
rhythm and your own posture you will be subject to his lead.

Notice how you feel in your body, put some of your attention back
onto yourself. Only then will you be able to think for yourself
and to form your own opinions.

2 Filter The Words

Once you have regained a sense of how you feel and think in the
present moment it is time to filter the words that Mr.Charisma
speaks so eloquently. A filter will help you to maintain this
sense of self and the ability to think for yourself.

A visual filter is easiest for some people. Imagine a wall in the
air between you and him, a wall that filters the words so that
you only hear the words without feeling drawn into his world.

Other people prefer a auditory filter. Imagine that your ears
can be tuned in like a radio. You only hear the words not the way
the words are manipulated to effect your emotions.

Choose a filter that appeals to you and use it to help you think
independently so that you can evaluate what you are listening to.
Why does this work? By using your imagination in this way, you
are using the power of your right brain to help you get what you
want.

3 Take Back Time

Take time out from the onslaught. Either ask directly for time to
consider what is being said or occasionally repeat back what he
is saying in your own words. By paraphrasing his words you will
regain control of the flow of the conversation. You will also
be showing that you are listening and understanding what is
being discussed.

It is simple at this point to take charge by asking questions.
Whoever is asking the questions is generally in charge of the
conversation so use this skill to assert your authority. Then use
this time to decide what *you* think.

Mr.Charisma can easily take charge unless you understand how to
regain composure. Break rapport, filter his words and take time
to formulate your own opinions.

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