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"Joan, I'm working so hard and I'm not getting anything done!" I
have heard some version of this cry of frustration by many an
entrepreneur. It's a common complaint voiced by those of use who
sought the freedom to have complete authority over our
schedules, only to find ourselves unwittingly shackled by old
ways of operating.
It does not appear to matter that we are independent
professionals or business owners, we live in a world shaped by
the rules of corporate life. Most of us came from jobs and daily
schedules that dictated what to do and how to spend our time.
Being somewhat like the long-term prisoner we got very used to
the daily regimen. We were told when to start work, take lunch,
take breaks and leave for the day. Managers, clients, customers
and operating manuals told us what to do and when to do it.
So we get out on our own, having dreamt of the freedom, only to
start filling our days with busyness, in a panic from the very
start. We don't have a clue as to how to do otherwise.
It doesn't seem to matter how long you have been out on your
own. It's just as difficult to break outdated habits and beliefs
when we do become financially successful. Why? Because whatever
path to success we took, we now believe - or certainly worry -
that it's the only way. We are afraid to let go and try
something new. Why? Perhaps because beliefs have been making the
decisions all along. And I'm not talking about beliefs based in
trust, faith, passion and prosperity!
Consider the following beliefs:
1. I'm easily distracted 2. I'm not an organized person 3. I do
my best work under pressure 4. Really successful people start
work early and end late 5. When you own your own business, you
have to work long hours, especially at the beginning 6. If I
keep enough balls up in the air, some are sure to land. 7.
Work…hard… nose…to… the…grindstone (Arrgghh!) 8. If I'm having
fun it must not be right
Or complaints…
1. I can't take time off - I need the money 2. I don't know how
to say "no" to others (or to crappie work or to crummy clients)
3. I never have enough time for myself 4. I'm responsible for
everything in my business 5. In this bad economy…fill in the
blank
It's no wonder we find it difficult, left to our own devices, to
figure out how to structure our day so that we achieve that
seemingly illusive balance between success and personal well
being. The two needs appear to be at odds with each other. It's
a rare few that have the good fortune to understand how to
create a structure that effectively serves both needs.
The goal is to be able to make good decisions about how your
spend your working time with confidence, so that you are
effective, having fun and leaving room for your personal needs
and commitments. The goal is to be able to make such decisions
from a place of certainty, trust, and faith in yourself, and
'the universe.'
Uncovering Your Beliefs and Understanding Their Impact on Your
Business Decisions
1. To get started thinking about the impact your beliefs have on
how you decide what it takes to be successful in business, pick
one from the above list that isn't one of yours. Imagine if it
were yours. What impact do you think it would have on you? How
would it impact your ability to make sound decisions about what
it takes to be successful?
2. Now take a look at something you know you do believe, a
belief or a habit that you can't seem to shake. If you are
having difficulty coming up with one, think about what you
complain about to your friends, family or colleagues. Think
about the story you tell people over and over. (This is the part
that can make you squirm. It's okay. No one is around but you
right now.) We are looking for the ugly, wonderful truth.
3. Take the belief you identified in 2 above and make note of
how it could be impacting your decisions, your ability to set
boundaries, your willingness to take time off or simply stop
working before 5. (Yes, I meant before 5.)
4. Over the next week, take some time to observe and note every
time this belief "pops up" to influence your decisions.
Just taking these few simple steps can loosen the hold that
outdated beliefs have on your decisions from this day forward -
no kidding. The beliefs are no longer in the background, in
hiding, and running the show. You now have a chance to loosen
their reign.
Bonus Step: If you want to go one step further, write down a new
belief to replace the old belief. Review the new belief every
day. Put it up on your computer as a screen saver (mine's
"Abundance Girl"). Feel the belief, look for evidence it's true.
If the old one comes to visit, say hello, bid it adieu, and then
replace it with the new belief.
Willingness, the Final Ingredient
Ask yourself this: Am I willing let go of my story and do
whatever it takes (even to feel like a fool) to have the freedom
and the success that lead me to start my business in the first
place? If you are, you can.
