3 Huge Lessons I Learned When She Dumped Me

One she discarded me, I realized that I had made some false steps and that I would need to improve to keep my life on an even keel. The points regarding my whole experience follow. I point them out in the hopes that you won't have to suffer as I did.

First, a breakup usually occurs, regardless of what appearances may be, because one of the two needs some time, or space away, from the other. While some may say that's a bad thing, it's not necessarily so. My ex gave me that song and dance about wanting "breathing room." Later I realized that she really was trying to tell me that she needed some breathing room to think about her future and whether or not it would be with me. If your girl had been that straight forward, I bet she would have realized, sooner or later, that life with you would be best. Just because she has broken off with you for a while because she needs "space", doesn't necessarily mean she's done with you.

Second, everybody knows that breakups aren't exactly a bed of roses, but you have to come to terms with it - is this the end of something good, or is this the beginning of something far better? It goes without saying that I was pretty blue for a while. But, the opportunity for renewal presented itself. The breakup was sour, and it made me realize just how sour my whole life had become. Talk about lack-luster, my job, my dinner, my going to bed were the most exciting things in my life. I had lost myself. The breakup gave me a chance to reconnect with myself and remember passions and possibilities. I had some time to realize what my life had been missing.

Third, if your life isn't attractive, how is it going to be exciting enough to attract a woman back to it? Out of desperation I ignored that simple rule and made some pretty silly mistakes. I'd give my poor girlfriend a ring any number of times a day just to hear her voice and tell her how much I yearned for her, hoping she would give me another chance. Is it any wonder that she dumped a sniveling little man? I had to step back and remember that she once was in love with me and that I had forgotten how to be the attractive man that once made her laugh and smile. She fell in love with you once. Show her why she did.

Face it, breakups are a sad fact of life in just about everybody's life. Of course, if you're reading this you already know that. Here's the scoop, a breakup is not the end. There you go. Breakups are no fun. Whatever happens to you and the girl who dumped you, you have a new path to take, a path to a better life, the same way I traveled when my ex left me "room" to grow.