3 Things You Must Do to Survive a Breakup

So, it seems that you've suddenly found yourself by yourself again. If you're feeling emotionally lost and hurt, you probably want to learn how to survive a breakup. It's normal for you to feel a little depressed and sad after a breakup. You've probably heard it before, but time will heal all your pain and suffering. However there are a few tricks you can use to help yourself speed up the recovery time.

First, come to terms with the thought that the relationship is over. This is a very important thing that will get the ball rolling with the recovery process. It doesn't have to be set in stone, but accept the fact that at least for the present the two of you are broken up. This way you won't feel the urge to annoy your ex with phone calls or emails begging and pleading them to take you back. Doing these types of things will only drive your ex away from you even more. Both of you need to take a breather from the relationship, at least for a little while. So step back from your relationship for just a little bit and work on yourself. This is an important phase in moving past a breakup and getting back control of your life.

Second, it's acceptable to mourn the end of your relationship. We usually need time to work through the emotions that come with the loss of something or someone special to us. So set aside the time to let all the feelings you are experiencing run their course. Some people might tell you to just jump immediately into a fresh new relationship. This isn't something you should do. Rebound relationships are very rarely successful. It isn't fair to expect someone new to take on the burden of holding your hand as you move on and work through all your feelings for your ex. Try to feel complete in yourself and resolve all those messy emotions from your previous relationship. Then when you feel that you are comfortable, you can start seeing new people again. One of the most important things you can do in moving on from a breakup is to take the time to reestablish your own identity again.

Third, stay active. Do some things that will help you keep active and out of the house. Go out with your friends, try out some interesting hobbies, or enroll in a class on a fun topic. These activities are excellent ways to keep motivated and keep yourself from feeling depressed and staying in too much. Also you should begin moving away from doing "couple activities" and try out new things that you think are exciting and interesting. Making new friends and picking up new skills is a fun way to improve your life. These hobbies will make you a very interesting and attractive person down the road. To help ease yourself through a breakup, stay busy. This helps to keep your mind off your relationship and helps build your unique personality at the same time.

Breakups definitely are not easy. The advice here will help you through this turbulent time in your life. I know that it probably won't be easy to pick yourself up and dust yourself off to begin with. After a little while you'll start to pick up steam and everything will come much more easily. I know what I'm talking about, I've been there personally. You can do this and come out the other side a better person.