advice on getting your boyfriend back

The focus of most articles about breakups is things you can do to regain your ex. Behavior changes you need to make may be the focus of other articles. Feeling that you need to do something to get your ex-boyfriend back, you are admitting that the relationship had problems, though you may not have been completely at fault. While one of you may have ben the primary problem, it is more likely that you both have blame to share. You cannot begin an effort to win him back without examining what went wrong. A good, honest, examination of both party's behavior, will lead you to the places you can be blamed, and you can then work on improving those areas.

If you really want to win back your ex, you will have to deal with the hurt you have suffered. Start with your own anger and disappointment and deal with those feelings. A good journal may be a good way to begin the process of dealing with these emotions. Write out your thoughts precisely. You can be totally honest as nobody else is ever meant to read this. Written out, these conflicting thoughts may be easier to cope with. It may be enough for you to write out these feelings, but reading them over later may be even more helpful. Throwing away the paper that you have written these feelings down on may allow you to also discard the negative feelings, letting you move on. It may then be possible to reconcile with your ex-boyfriend, or begin a new relationship, but either way you will be taking charge of your life.

The time to win back your ex begins when you have released all of the negativity. Look at what was good about the relationship. Where did you find your best times? Sometimes, did there seem to be a pall over the entire relationship? When was he seemingly the happiest? How did you find him attractive in the beginning, and what made you attractive to him? How did your altitude change? Was your career paths more important? There is no need to be negative or childish as you try to take these and discuss them with your boyfriend.

Remember that both of you were happy to be together in the relationship at some point. Each of you had their own idea of the future path of the relationship. At some point of the relationship, those dreams withered away. There might have been a crisis that changed it all. There might have been a point where both your minds were focused elsewhere when it should have been on the relationship. Are you both saddened over the end of your relationship and all those dreams? You might be getting a second chance to do it right.