Make Your Ex Come Back to a More Confident You

When you've just gone through a painful breakup or a divorce, it's just natural for you to feel anger towards your ex or towards yourself. You may end up bitter and constantly analyzing who is to blame for the separation. At the same time, you are torn between your anger and feelings of wanting to make your ex come back to you.

Sometimes these emotions of pain, anger, misery and confusion just paralyze you and you are unable to go through your day without crying. You may find it hard to even leave your bedroom or your house a few days (sometimes weeks) after the breakup. You would stare on the phone for hours, waiting for it to ring, hoping that it's his voice at the other end of the line. Well, he does call one day, but it's only to let you know he's picking up the rest of his things!

And you feel your heart being torn apart into small pieces and then trampled on. But face it, it's not just your heart that is hurting here. So are your self esteem and pride. You can't believe that he would dump you for someone less pretty, less smart than you. You can't even imagine what he sees with the girl he's dating right now. And at the back of your mind, you want to believe that he's just out dating to make you feel jealous. Oh yeah, right!

You have two choices - you can wallow in self pity and spend the rest of your life aching for "the man that got away". Or you can step out of your room, look around you and see how wonderful it is that you are given this chance to reflect on what went wrong. Step out of your blues. Get out there and meet your best friend for coffee and if you really strongly desire it - plan your strategy to make your ex come back.

Focus on gaining back your confidence and do a little soul searching. Ask yourself what your next step will be - will you try and mend your broken heart by moving on, or would you try to make your ex come back to you?

You alone can make that decision. But whether or not you decide to make your ex come back, work on your self-esteem and gain that confidence again. Find ways to restore the woman he first fell in love with but somehow got buried in all of life's daily demands. Get out and make new friends, watch movies or concerts with friends, read more books, love yourself more.

You maybe surprised that the next time he sees you, you don't even have to try too hard to catch his attention. He'll wonder if you have a new love in your life who is making the best of you come out. He'll even be more surprised to know that you just did all these changes because you learned to love yourself more.

Without even really trying, you can make your ex come back to you with your new found confidence. Try it and be on for a surprise!