My Ex Boyfriend Is Dating Another Girl – Here’s What You Can Do

You're out with your friends one night and you get the shock of your life. You spot your ex-boyfriend across the room - but he's not alone. Some woman is draped on his arm like a sports coat and he's clearly enjoying the attention. Breakups are difficult things to deal with. Adding another woman in the mix makes an already difficult process even worse. Everything you thought you knew has been trampled along with the remnant of your heart and you don't know where to turn. What can you possibly do to get him back? Stronger moves you can take to get an ex boyfriend interested in getting back together with you at the last paragraph of this piece of writing.

Right now your ex is swimming with an almost insurmountable attraction for his new girlfriend. He is wrapped up in the beginning stages of their relationship and not all the old tricks are going to be effective. You need to break his one-track mind and get him to look around - get him to notice you again. On top of that you need him to realize that you've still got potential as a girlfriend. If you want to pull this thing off you need to use a woman's number one trick - a clever ploy to capture his attention and turn it away from his new flame.

Play It Carefully - Be Subtle

You don't want to become too wrapped up in playing with his mind - no one likes to feel someone else's thoughts or ideas prodding around in there but sometimes playing dirty is the only way to get a foot in the door. Plus he probably has it coming - a little bit at least. The time that you've spent apart is not as important as it is to reconnect. You obviously can't just call him out of the blue and risk the rage of his new girlfriend. Face it, no woman is going to be overjoyed that her new boyfriend is carrying on a conversation with his ex. Creating the bonds of trust that the two of you never used to give a second though is imperative. If he thinks you're likely to sneak behind his back and tattle on him he won't give contacting you another thought.

Be Patient And Give His Relationship Time

Before you can reach out initially you need to do something that is going to probably be extremely difficult. New relationships are passionate and intense and you have virtually no chance of breaking them apart at the beginning. Patience is not a popular word for you but it is considered a virtue for a reason. If you can give him some time right now he will be easier to connect with again eventually. When you do start contact be prepared to meet some extreme uncertainty on his part - it's going to take a little bit of time for him to consider your possible motives. Let it happen naturally. He won't respond favorably if he thinks you're trying to undercut his new relationship right off the bat.

Of course you're going to - but for now, that can be your little secret.

This is not something that can be done overnight - or even a span of weeks. You need to be prepared to move slowly and take your time - don't set your expectations too high and drown yourself in disappointment. Your first move is obvious - you need to start communication up again but not where it left off. Initially you're best choice is to reach out via the web. Send him an email or a message somewhere that is out of sight. You never know what his new girlfriend has access to and you don't want to set off the alarm bells for either of them.

Establishing Contact

You clearly can't just jump into a full blown conversation right off the bat. Start small - think of a reason that you may need to establish contact - or think of a question that he would be a perfect person to answer. No matter what it is, keep it short, sweet and to the point - but make it something that needs a response. Once you've sent the message, sit back and wait for a response. It may not come right away, but it will eventually.

You're basically finding a way in at the root - and your ex's new love isn't going to think twice about what he's up to. Right now you're creating an enticing and subtle connection that is likely to eventually ignite sparks between you. Eventually he'll bring up his new relationship and the best thing you can do is let him. Let him feel comfortable discussing things to you without giving him the impression that you're passing judgment and don't try to undermine or insult his girlfriend or his relationship. You don't want to come off as jealous or insecure, that will never get him back.

Once your emails have continued for a time you can start expecting a few scattered texts or even phone calls. He'll start to reach out to you in new, more personal ways. You need to actively work on establishing a comfortable atmosphere to talk. The more at ease he feels the more he'll feel safe around you and the more he'll start opening up to you about his life and his current relationship.

Be His Friend And Confidante

Ultimately he'll probably start asking for your opinions about things. It may start small as he begins testing the waters. He's looking for reactions and if you maintain a calm and friendly atmosphere, he'll move on to deeper subjects. Ideally he'll start discussing things about his relationship with you in more detail.

Stay calm and watch your choice of words and your demeanor. You can give him honest and open advice without coming across as an ex with a motive. That's your way in and you're in the perfect position to take it. Make sure that you pay close attention to what he says about her. That way you can easily turn that information into an advantage when the time is right.

Meeting Him In Person

As things progress even further you can expect that eventually he's going to be looking for a way to see you in person. He may suggest hanging out for lunch or even meeting at your old favorite coffee shop. You need to suggest places that put you both at ease in order to make sure the conversation avoids as much potential awkwardness as possible.

You want to allow yourself to relax despite your sense of elation about seeing him again. He's been waiting to see you face to face ever since you began talking again and he may be just as excited as you are. Let things happen gradually and naturally. You don't want to push your advantage too soon and show him your cards before you're ready to fully invest.

By the end of your first meeting, he should be looking to see you again soon. That means that you've definitely made an impression and you're on the right track. Give him something to look forward to every time you get together and make sure that you keep the conversation flowing, light and entertaining for both of you.

Your Next Steps

Getting to this point is only half the battle. You now need to hold his interest and attract him again. There are loads of subtle psychological techniques to enable this to happen, you just need to know when to implement them and how. It would also be a good idea at this point to work out if he still has feelings for you. Look out for signs he still loves you, then you will know where you stand.

You also have to be careful not to make any of these post breakup mistakes. You probably think that you are doing nothing wrong, but your behavior could be interpreted the opposite way to the way he sees it. Visit blog links at Author’s Bio for truly practical tips for an ex boyfriend and get him falling in love with you over again.