It is an instinctive emotional reaction to want to retrieve something which you have lost; but have you taken the time to decide logically if you really want to get your ex back?
We don't like losing things no matter what they are. Neither do we like it when things are taken from us. This applies to everything from less important possessions at one end of the scale, all the way to our spouse at the top end of the scale.
Nobody likes to experience a sense of loss or injustice, and this is what losing an ex necessarily entails. When we lose something our natural instinct is to try and get it back; this becomes an immediate desire, even before we have a chance to think logically about the situation. When you do finally pause for a moment and allow your logical mind to face the issue, do you really want him or her back?
To lose one's spouse threatens ones sense of security. And whenever our brains perceive threat we are hard wired to respond in an immediate emotional manner. As our fight or flight reaction takes over, adrenalin is released to put us on high alert and our logical thought processes are bypassed.
This instinctive reaction was very beneficial in the "olden days" when the threat of being eaten was not one which you needed to think about; to have all of your energy directed into the necessary actions so as to avoid becoming supper was of paramount importance. You could not afford the luxury of wasting either time or energy in the decision making process.
But to have this same instinctive reaction in the modern day when the threat is of a very different type may prove to be less beneficial. If your ex has left or gone off with someone else, it is very important to pause for a moment and step back a little from your emotional turmoil. Hypnosis is a great help in this process as it is a natural state of relaxation, providing a soothing balm to your over sensitive emotions.
Hypnosis can provide your emotions with a respite from turmoil and a great mental massage in minutes. In doing this you gain a further benefit, that of re-engaging your logical thinking mind. This allows you to once more see things clearly and think about what you really want from a logical viewpoint instead of a simmering emotional perspective.
Now is the time to ask yourself do you really want your ex back? Do you only want him or her back because of your instinctive emotional reaction, or do you really want them back in your life?
Roseanna Leaton, specialist in hypnosis downloads for relationship issues.
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