An integral piece of charisma is establishing a presence, so let'sexamine 3 ways to establish your charisma presence, that will clearlytell all around you "I'm a player and a force to be reckoned with!".
Your Mother Was Right:"Stand up Straight!"; "Head up!"; "Shoulders back!"; "Chest out!";"Don't slouch!"; are some other things you heard as a child. Probablywithout knowing, she was enabling you to display confidence andestablish a charisma presence. Your overall posture will make youfeel and look confident, while keeping you at ease with yoursurroundings. As you encounter new situations, pay very particularattention to how you walk, sit, and stand. Even if you're not atease, follow the rules of posture your mother told you as you weregrowing up. That posture that tells other people that you are atease, and they naturally will assume you are!
S-M-I-L-EA natural friendly smile is one of your most powerful "weapons" inyour charisma arsenal and can work wonders if you use it at the rightstrategic intervals. A friendly smile can be an ice breaker, or itcan easily remove resistance. And just generally, it surrounds you inan aura of high self-esteem and confidence.
You Are in the Drivers Seat!In every situation where you deal with anothers, you need to stayfocused on tact and diplomacy. Remember to keep your charismaqualities high so that others will be drawn to you. As analyzesituations you'll also know exactly when to speak and what to saywhen you speak, and how to present yourself in the most appealing waythroughout the interaction.
As you look at the world full of people, most lack a high level ofcharisma presence. It is very easy to stand out and be head-and-shoulders above the rest. When you have it, it shows. And even if youdon't have it, as you develop your own high level of presence, youcan fake it until you make it. But remember, the trick to faking itis to fake it with sincerity. As your charisma presence develops, youwill find yourself no longer faking it, but truly exhibiting an auraof charisma to others around you, where they are drawn to yourcharismatic charm.
Charles H SmithHaving been a public speaker for more than a decade, Charles haslearned the unwritten rules of what makes or breaks a good first andlasting impression. For more on enabling your charisma, see this newebook, "The Power of Charisma": http://www.the-power-of-charisma.com
