Having Self Confidence, Through Life Training, Creates a Fulfilling Life

Whenever I look in the mirror, I see a “stud ... not a dud!”  If honest confession is good for the soul, in order to be truthful, sometimes I see a “dud not a stud.”  Tiredness, mental fatigue, spiritual doubts, inhibitions and poor nutrition ... all of these can play a part. But we always have a choice we only need to make the right one. We must absolutely determine that we will not be led about by our feelings. Whether we “feel” good or “feel” bad is not the issue. It should be a question of “What is my worth?” Am I proud of life’s success, achievements, and skills? If not, then you should find ways for life training to improve performance, after all it’s for your own personal good.

The issue is way deeper than feelings. Feelings are the result of many related factors.  It could be last night's pizza... confronting this morning's flat tire. These stressors and frustrations will start an avalanche headed to “you know where” if we don’t stop them. Our faith in ourselves, our lives, our decisions and on and on... Will mentally get called into question and eventually we can fall in to depression. A logical worthwhile investment would be is to invest on a life training in building skills to become more successful in life.

One day a well known speaker started off his seminar by holding up a $20 bill. In a room of about 200 people, he asked, “What is this piece of paper & is it worth anything?”

“It is a $20 bill ... it’s worth $20! Someone shouted out.

He then began to crumple the dollar bill up using both his hands till it became nothing but a handful of wadded up paper. He unfolded it again and tried to smooth it out... and asked, "would you still be able to buy $20 worth of goods for this?'

“Yes!!” everyone agreed.

“Well,” he said, “Looks like I haven’t done enough! What if I do this?” And he dropped it on the ground and started to grind it into the floor with his shoe. What is it worth now?

"It’s still worth 20 Dollars,” Everyone agreed.

“My friends, there is a very valuable lesson in this exercise that we just went through. I was able to reshape, deface, mutilate & alter the $20 bill during the process. “However, no matter what I did to this piece of paper, you still said it was worth $20."

“Many times in our lives, we feel like as if we are dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and/or the circumstances we go through. We feel as though we are worthless. It may also appear to onlookers as if it has really happened to a certain extent. But no matter what has happened or what will happen, please remember you never lose your “Value”.”

Think back on those who never lost faith in their abilities, when you fail or go through times of doubt,

Sir Edmund Hillary refused to accept failure as an option. His displays of superhuman will power were displayed by being the first man to climb Mount Everest. On May 29, 1953 he scaled the highest mountain then known to man ... 29,000 feet straight up. He was knighted for his endeavor. He even made American Express card commercials because of it!

Did you know Hillary had to grow into this success? You see, in 1952 he attempted to climb Mount Everest, but failed. A few weeks later a group in England asked him to address its members. Hillary walked on stage to thunderous applause.

He moved away from the microphone and walked to the edge of the platform. He made a fist and pointed at a picture of the mountain. He said in a loud voice, “Mount Everest, you beat me the first time, but I’ll beat you the next time because you’ve grown all you are going to grow... but I’m still growing!”  He never lost faith in himself!

Another brilliant example:

There was once a boy who started speaking later than most.  He was definitely not a good all-around student. His teachers found him to be a problem child.  He had odd mannerisms ... he had no friends ... and his father was ashamed of him because he had no athletic ability.

Eccentrics are often associated as being geniuses in more ways than one can imagine. He had to leave school for six months during his senior year because of a nervous breakdown.  But I'm glad he didn't give up.  His name was Albert, Albert Einstein. He never lost faith in himself! Oh, by the way, did you hear about the family that kept taking Einstein vacations?  That’s one where everything was “relative!’’ You visit aunts, uncles, etc.

 You have to shake off these “feelings” when you start to lose faith in yourself.

If the need arises we should start to encourage ourselves... you need to motivate yourself!  Am I encouraging you to ... talk to yourself?  Yes I am.  Self talk is a great step in mind renewal. Here are some examples I say to myself:   I’m a winner not a whiner. I'm a stud, not a dud.  I remind myself of past successes. I would note down the contentions that made me successful, introspect on how I was able to achieve them. Then I’ll read them over and over.

Some people call these positive statements  ... affirmations.  Mark Victor Hanson and Robert Allen in their great book One Minute Millionaire call them manifestations.  Manifest means to “make appear” A deeper meaning means to reach from the visible world ... by faith ...through an invisible veil ... and pull something back. It manifests itself.

That is what positive self talk can do.  It can help you shake off these bad “vibes” and manifest a better self image.  This will keep you from losing faith in yourself and give the negative notion of asking yourself “What is my worth?”

If we face our problems and respond to them positively, and refuse to give into panic, refuse to give into bitterness, and refuse to give into self-pity ... THE ADVERSITIES THAT COME ALONG  TO BURY US USUALLY HAVE WITHIN THEM THE POTENTIAL TO BENEFIT US ...AND BLESS US!

Determination amidst hindrances while enduring the ravages of decrepit negative stimulus forges a man with a conviction like no other. Through Life training and skill building with a mentor or a life coach one can definitely see acclaimed improvement on your performance on your personal work. And also as a means to further reach your personal mission.