How to Become Someone Your Ex Would Want to Date Again Without Being a Doormat

This is of course if your ex is worth dating again. That you're not being codependent. That you're not thinking someone is better than no one. That your not using your memories of the past to instill security in you because it's easier to go to the past emotionally than the unknown future. So you decided your ex is worth getting back.

There's a two part plan and a strategic move.

First part is to create distance. Under no circumstances contact your ex, resist the urge, even though it feels counter intuitive. Even if you have to fight that urge with every fibre of your being.

Don't contact your ex.

For now.

Now chances are if your ex dumped you, told you that they're not in love with you, wants some space, wants time out, has moved onto someone else, then your self esteem has taken a nose dive. No one likes rejection.

So pick yourself up, even if it takes time, and really do some soul searching about how to be the person your ex would want to date. I'm not talking single white female here lol. I'm talking be someone you want to be, be who you were meant to be, be the person always were deep down. Be happy, self serving, independent, strong, charming, and enjoyable to be around.

DO THIS FOR YOU!!!

The by-product will be that this is probably who your ex fell in love with in the beginning anyway. The person they were attracted to. But life and familiarity wore you down and you became complacent.

It's often typical that people go out and get make-overs after a break up, they initially do it as a knee jerk reaction but those are all the things you were probably doing when your ex first met you, but you let them go.

Time to stop being that comfy pair of slippers for your ex to come home to, but the stunning vivacious person that you always were deep down.