If you believe in yourself, everything is possible, but sometimes even the best of us get stuck.When we lose, we all feel defeated; but why ...
If you believe in yourself, everything is possible, but sometimes even the best of us get stuck.
When we lose, we all feel defeated; but why are some people able to get up, pick up the pieces and start over again, while others are mired in quicksand and see no way out?
Mindset. Our brains are wired from the accumulation of experiences we've had throughout our lives that have made us react in ways that are either self- limiting, or expansive.
People who respond unconsciously in self-limiting ways put a lot of pressure on themselves. You see it all around you. They get caught up in the shoulda-woulda-coulda mentalities that make mountains out of molehills, every misstep a disaster and every success not good enough compared to someone else's. They've failed at life. They put an awful lot of pressure on themselves unnecessarily and at some point they're just going to burn out - both physically and emotionally.
Those who are expansive latch on to same situations as an opportunity to learn and grow. Their minds expand as they seek out creative solutions and ways to make their circumstances - and themselves better, simply by focusing on the process. The only person they compare themselves to is themselves; and if they end the day better than they started it, they feel successful. It's a win. Their lives are a work in progress. They're healthier, more creative, more successful, and most importantly, happier.
Nothing is either black or white. Most people are a combination of the two mindsets to greater or lesser degrees, but the differentiating factor that makes some people pull through while others fall on their respective faces is belief in themselves.
So how do we learn to believe in ourselves? Begin by accepting:
"You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose. You're on your own, and you know what you know. And you are the one who'll decide where you'll go. Oh the places you'll go."