Repeating Confidence

... it was  a big plus, for then I no longer worried about what others thought of me...I could now concentrate on improving myself and my life. Look at it this way --- they are not going to endure the suffering when I am sick, nor or they going to pay my bills.

What does all that have to do with having confidence?  Because, at least for me, when I am around others, I no longer sometimes feel intimidated because they may be better looking, stronger, better educated, or have more money than me. 

First and foremost, please realize and reinforce the fact that you are very important to your family, and your country.  We all have something to offer in one way or another.  Do yourself a big favor and stand in front of a mirror, and ask yourself what you are good at --- we are all good at something!  Then smile at yourself, and say something to the effect “Yes, I am very good at ________________.”  In fact, a good confidence booster is to grab a notebook and a pen or pencil, and over the next seven days, write down everything you are good at.  No matter what it is, how small or large, or what you think about it, write it down.  At the end of the seven days, you will be amazed at how long the list is. 

Nothing that I am aware of makes us feel better about ourselves than reading and learning --- again, it doesn't matter what good books you read, for you will always be educating yourself on something new.  If nothing else, get on the web, go to a good joke site, and learn new jokes to tell your friends. The more we learn, the more we know, the more we know,  the more interesting we are, and the more interesting we are, the more others want to be around us and ask us for advice.  Neat how that works isn't it? 

Please remember that not matter who we are or what we do, there is always going to be someone better at what we can do.  So when you make a mistake somewhere, don't feel depressed or walk away.  Face whatever it is, and take the responsibility you have to yourself --- if you tried something 20 times and it didn't work out, do not tell yourself you failed 20 times, tell yourself you found 20 ways that it didn't work.

Do you have any friends that are always running someone down, or just always talking negative?  Maybe, it is time to find some new friends who are positive and upbeat.  As we are all aware, our minds are just organic computers, whatever we put in it, that is what is going to come out. 

As you are well aware, the more we consider all the everyday things that we do successfully, the more confident we become, and the more confident we become, the more things we do successfully, and it becomes automatic... Nice, wouldn't you say?