Tips For Improving Your Self-Esteem. Article Two

Tips For Improving Your Self-Esteem. Article Two

Perhaps the greatest authority on self-esteem is Jack Canfield Ph.D. who says: “People with high self esteem are winners”. But he also says that some quite successful people suffer from low self-esteem. People with low self-esteem tend to be: Controlling, afraid to risk, curt and abrupt with customers and less likely to participate in life and thus don’t become successful. The more things you try and the more things you do in life the greater your chance of becoming successful.

Psychologists believe that two out of every three people suffer from low self-esteem. So if you find yourself in a group of three people, one of you is okay but two of you are in trouble. If someone is criticizing you or giving you a hard time in some way here is an affirmation that Jack recommends which you can repeat silently in your head over and over again to cancel out the negative effect: “No matter what you say and do to me I am still a worthwhile person”. Here are some more tips:

1. Learn to love to read and read positive, motivational and inspirational books and magazines that contribute to your self-improvement.

2. Get fit. Not only will you feel better in yourself but about yourself.

3. Learn good manners and how to behave in polite company. Swearing is not clever or adult and only makes you look ignorant.

4. Use your imagination to choose what sort of person you want to be. Pick role models and use some of their qualities that you want to have in a visualisation to become the person you want to be. Great for self-improvement.

5. Avoid negative media influences such as: Pornography, soap operas and horror films. Watch things that you can learn from, that will improve you as a person and inspire you.

6. Take courses that will improve you such as a public speaking course, further education or an assertiveness class.

7. Make friends with all sorts of people no matter what their race, colour, religion or disability. If you accept others just as they are they will accept you. To have a friend you must first be a friend.

8. Conquer your shyness, don’t let it dominate or spoil your life.

9. Be well informed about current events and a variety of interesting subjects so that you may have better conversations with others.

10. Develop a passion for a hobby or particular subject. Not only will you meet other people through a hobby or interest but also others love to listen to highly inspired, enthusiastic speakers and it bring about mutual self-improvement.

11. Take a few risks. As the title of the well-known book says, “Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway”. Start a conversation with a stranger, be the first in your peer group to try a new fad or fashion, go bungee jumping, or white water rafting. Have yourself an adventure, it will make you a great attraction at parties, you will have achieved something and have happy memories you can look back on and talk about for the rest of your life. Today is the first day of the rest of you life so get out there and do some living!

12. Replace negative thoughts with positive ones. Use the affirmation “I like myself!” this is thought to be the most powerful affirmation there is. Make up other affirmations to cheer you up when you are depressed and to keep you positive. The best known one is: “Every day in every way I am getting better and better”.