How to Have an Emotionally Intelligent Valentine's Day

The Emotional Rollercoaster of Valentine's Day

Every year, as Valentine's Day approaches, many of us find ourselves caught in a mix of emotions. I recall a particular instance a few years ago when I left a card and gift shop, feeling overwhelmed by the commercialism of the holiday. I was single at the time, and the pressure to buy the perfect gift weighed heavily on me. The shop owner’s parting words, "Be careful driving, Susan. There are a lot of angry lovers out there today," resonated with me. It was a stark reminder of the emotional complexity that Valentine's Day can bring.

Intentionality: Setting the Right Tone

What is Intentionality?

Intentionality involves being clear about your goals and actions. It means expressing your feelings genuinely and being accountable for your motives and actions.

How to Be Intentional on Valentine's Day

1. Express Love Meaningfully: Consider what love means to your partner. It could be a heartfelt poem, a practical gift like a toaster oven, or a simple kiss on the cheek. Tailor your expression of love to what resonates with them.
2. Manage Your Emotions: Reflect on your emotional intentions. Are you planning to let the day upset you? Are you setting unrealistic expectations? Be honest with yourself and aim to keep your emotions in check.

Questions to Reflect On

• Do you plan to be upset over what happens?
• If you're single, do you intend to let it get to you?
• Do you intend to be disappointed in what your lover gives you?
• Do you intend to keep your expectations in line with reality?
• Do you intend to express your needs clearly?
• Do you intend to spend within your means?
• Do you intend to compare your gifts to others'?
• Do you intend to let someone else handle Valentine's Day for you?
• Do you intend to be a perfectionist?

Accountability: Practical Steps for a Stress-Free Day

Planning Ahead

1. Budgeting: Write out your budget to avoid overspending.
2. List of Recipients: Make a list of people you wish to remember.
3. Gift Ideas: Start brainstorming gift ideas for each person.
4. Utilize Resources: Use the Internet and phone to make shopping easier.
5. Start Early: Avoid last-minute stress by planning ahead.
6. Resist Impulse Buys: Plan how to resist last-minute specials that you can't afford.

Important Considerations

Valentine's Day often falls on a weekday, which can complicate plans. For instance, in 2023, it falls on a Tuesday. This means:

• Floral Arrangements: Last-minute orders are possible but may be more expensive.
• Restaurant Reservations: Expect restaurants to be packed, so book early.
• Babysitters: They may be hard to come by, so plan accordingly.

Interesting Stats About Valentine's Day

• Spending: In 2022, Americans spent an estimated $23.9 billion on Valentine's Day, with the average person spending $175.41 (Source: National Retail Federation).
• Gifts: Approximately 52% of people buy candy, 37% purchase flowers, and 20% buy jewelry for Valentine's Day (Source: Statista).
• Singles: About 15% of U.S. women send themselves flowers on Valentine's Day (Source: CNN).

Conclusion

Valentine's Day doesn't have to be a source of stress. By being intentional and accountable, you can create a day that is both meaningful and enjoyable. Remember, it's your day, and you can celebrate it in a way that brings you joy and satisfaction.