There is a terrible disease among us. It ... affects women and, to a smaller degree, men. It is a killer of ... self respect and joy. It's called "Body ... and it strikes people f
There is a terrible disease among us. It primarily affects women and, to a smaller degree, men. It is a killer of self-esteem, self respect and joy. It's called "Body Imagitis" and it strikes people from all walks of life.
Beautiful, heart-centered people stricken with this disease begin to believe they are not lovable and cannot have a relationship because their body is not the cultural ideal. The victims prevent themselves from bonding with others, sometimes refusing all romantic confections. They find themselves saying terrible things about how they look and constantly trying to change their appearance.
What is seldom understood about this disease is that it is not in the victim's body, but in the victim's mind. At the root of the disease is the belief that one is unlovable as a certain size or shape.
Do you or does someone you know suffer from Body Imagitis? If so, the cure is fairly simple. Simply challenge what and how you think.
Think about these:
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* Are you lovable because of your body or because of who you are inside?
* Do you only bring your body to the relationship, and if not, what do you bring?
* Are your communication skills and your ability to share and love the result of your body or a result of who you are?
* If you believe potential partners will not be attracted to you because of your body, have you never seen people with imperfect bodies in happy relationships?
* Is your body capable of giving and receiving pleasure?
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I'm not saying you don't need to exercise, eat well and take care of yourself to be happy and healthy, and to be attractive to a partner. I'm simply trying to show you that your size and shape does not dictate whether or not you can find a mate to love you. No matter what shape or size you are, you will find people who will appreciate and love you.
Your Relationship Coach,
Rinatta Paries
www.WhatItTakes.com
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