This article provided guidelines on Handling difficult conversations. Fortunately, by following a set of simple yet powerful guidelines, you can significantly improve your conversations with others. This article presents a number of guidelines you can use to handle difficult people better.
Handling difficult conversations and people requires discipline. Fortunately, by following a set of simple yet powerful guidelines, you can significantly improve your conversations with others. This article presents a number of guidelines you can use to handle difficult people better.
Give People the Element of Doubt
Some people might just be difficult. For whatever reason, you may not get along with them. The best way to handle this is to remain calm and not to react. It is likely that they are this way with everybody and hence they are not being personal with you. If you react, you are likely to get emotional and would need to get involved more. This in turn can annoy you more and before you know you may end up in a heated argument. If you react or show you are not pleased with your body language and tone of voice, you can simply exasperate a difficult situation. Assume that sometimes people are just tired and make some poor remark. Don’t try to figure out if it is intentional or unintentional; just don’t rise to the bait! The more you stay away from a potentially damaging emotional encounter, the better.
Watch For Egos
When people get emotional, they may argue passionately and in the process their egos might be damaged. You always need to be careful of what you say to make sure you watch for people’s egos. If someone has something to say, let them do it. Don’t interrupt people, don’t be sarcastic and most important of all, don’t dismiss their concern. Sometimes people just want to be heard. Show that you are listening and understand their concern and then move on.
Don’t Preach Even If You Know They are Wrong
Similarly, but constantly being on a mission to tell people how they should behave, what to do and how to behave will simply annoy and irritate them since you have not shown any regard to their self-esteem or ego. If someone is complaining or suggesting something to you, even if you know what they are saying is not rational or as good as your own impeccable solutions, let them get on with it and express their views. Just the act of expressing their ideas may calm them down knowing that they have managed to communicate their thoughts with you. Most of the time, our own ego gets in the way thinking that there is no way on Earth they could be saying something you haven’t already thought about. Well, the reality is that we are not perfect and that includes you too. Just listen to people!
Use Empathy
Put yourself in the position of the other person and use empathic sentences to calm him. For example, “I understand how you feel, it must have been difficult.” Build rapport and make people feel more comfortable with you rather than constantly confront them.
Responding to Passive Tactics
Difficult people are likely to use sarcastic remarks, jokes, disapproving glances, rolling eyes and so on. This is more of a passive way to express their displeasure. Some think that when confronted with this, they should just ignore it. Of course, this can become quite annoying over time, so something should be done about it. The correct handling is not to ignore it and instead you need to use a simple technique to respond. Just ask them to clarify what they meant immediately after you observe their behaviour. Usually they back off and deny what they might done, said or implied. It will also teach them to be wary of their behaviour knowing that you could catch them out next time so they are more likely not to do it in the future. Your persistent will eventually eliminate their annoying behaviour.
Be Optimistic
Difficult people usually seem to have a negative view of life and everything around them. Your negative view would simply fuel their mentality. To cancel out, always adopt a positive mentality of the future and look forward to things that get better and better and reassure them that the problem is not as big as they think it is and there is hope for improvement in the future.
Handling difficult people is an inter-personal skill and a great way to master it is by going through interactive exercises with others and test yourself using conflict management scenarios and case studies. To do this, you can attend a course on conflict management or handling difficult people and train yourself under supervision of a soft skills trainer. Alternatively, if you are in charge of your staff, you can setup a corporate training course for them. For this you can use handling difficult people training materials or conflict management training materials and train the trainers to run an efficient course covering the guidelines provided above.
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