Coming Out of the Closet of Your Hidden Healthy Sex Life

For too long our humanity has been in the closet. Our comfort zone with darkened room, secretive, dirty talk, pornographic, disconnected sexuality is so insidious that it is like a disease that we are not even aware exists.

Rather than a sense of naturalness and wholeness with our sexuality we are hiding in the closet separated from the pure primal living force inside of us. This part of us that is hidden in the shadows is our deep palpitating sacred pleasure essence.

This sacred essence is hungry to come out into the light of day, starving for knowledge, richer new expression and fulfillment. It is seeking answers and doesn't quite know where to turn. Our pysche keeps going back to the same places to find nourishment but there is none to be had. The results are increased fantasy, affairs, unhealthy partners, s&m, sexual manipulation, domination, control or sexual abuse.

The heart and the pleasure center have been severed and are spinning in two different directions. Where is the nourishment, where is home?

This unconscious hiding is based on centuries of repressing the exquisite part of our human body essence from fear of religious and social persecution. This separation has created disconnection from the sweet goodness of sexual experience.

I recently walked into a very hip video store in Los Angeles that had an extensive, for adults only, section behind a curtain and I asked do you have any sex instruction videos. The very hip clerk with tattoos and a nose ring shrank into his body and nervously stared... I said it isn't pornography. Then he said, I know what you are talking about. No we don't have anything. This is one of many experiences I encounter daily with the hippest, coolest, most intelligent people you could ever meet. A lack of naturalness and comfort even talking about sexuality that isn't a seduction or a come on.

Sex education for most people started and ended in 7th grade. We spend most of our lives learning about the act of sex through movies, gossip and pornography. However this sex is little more than technique at best and mis-education or ego boosting at worst.

Our consciousness is ripe for replacing adolescent sexual education and expression with sacred understanding and connected sexuality.

Leave the snickering and whispering to the 7th graders.