Dating or interviewing?

We all know that a first date in supposed to be fun and flirty with a lot of good conversation and good chemistry! Right? What we also know is that treating our date like they are interviewing for a job can be boring and painful for everybody.

We have a few tips that can help create a comfortable connection during conversation.

1. Sit kitty-corner to your date. Do not sit across from them interview style and do not sit next to them because this will make conversation and eye contact awkward.
2. Make sure your conversation is like a tennis match. Don’t just pelt your match with conversation topics if they are not tossing back any comments or questions. Ask questions AND tell stories.
3. Do not make snap judgments on the first date. Just enjoy the company, let your date be themselves, and have realistic expectations. Prince charming and princess charming do not exist, so do not expect them to magically appear on your next date. Everybody has amazing aspects of their personality and everybody has flaws. At the end of the date, you can decide if you would like to go on a second date…or not.
4. Be honest with how you are feeling. If you feel like you are talking too much, just say “you know, I feel like l am talking too much…” and process to ask a question. Or if you do not love the restaurant, do not let this ruin the date. Just say “Wow this place has odd (art/ lighting/food/ service etc), don’t you think?”. Keep it light but keep it honest.
5. If you are having trouble keeping the conversation going for a moment, just look around. You could comment on a picture. Maybe it is a picture of an international destination. You could ask if they have ever traveled there. You could talk about the weather, the decoration, the anything until the conversation picks up again. Not everybody is or need to be a chatty Kathy so these tips can help you avoid any awkward pauses in conversation.

Conversation is an art, not a science, but it is an art worth mastering. Finding your spark with another person is the first step and great conversation and communication will grow a healthy relationship!

Lil’ Cupid