All the things you looked forward to, all your aspirations, all your dreams are shattered now that she's gone. You feel as if a close friend just died - and you're right, your relationship is dead. You're mourning your loss. You feel terrible - that's to be expected, most men have gone through it. Welcome to the club! But here's a fact: you'll get over it. Here's another fact - life is full of things more important than relationships with women, even the one who just dumped you. She knocked you down - big deal, it happens to all of us sooner or later. She's out of your life now, so the only thing keeping you down is you. Get up and get cracking!
All the things you looked forward to,
all your aspirations, all your dreams are shattered now that she's gone. Lost in your depression and self-pity, you sit alone, staring at the walls or a blank TV screen. Well, there's no doubt you feel terrible, but believe it or not, as with all things, this too will pass. And again, as difficult as it may be to believe, there's more to life than relationships with women - even the one who just walked out of your life. So get up and out of the rut you're in - she may have put you there, but you're the one who's not getting up. Get out, get re-involved in living, and remember - when it comes to getting back into the game, there are plenty of good fish in the sea!
The first order of business is to get her off your mind completely. Depending on how long your relationship lasted, this might not be so easy, so give yourself a couple of days to grieve - cry if it makes you feel better, and experience the full weight of the pain of her leaving. As the suffering begins to pass, it's time to clear the decks. Everything in your place that belongs to her or reminds you of her should be packed up. Clothing, photos, toiletries, everything must be packed up. Once you've packed everything up, don't just put it on a shelf in the closet - this is a subtle way your subconscious has of refusing to let her go. If her stuff is there, that means she's coming back sooner or later, right? So ship the package back to her and take the next big step toward mending your broken heart! Once you've dropped the carton off at the post office, take stock, shower down, put on some clothes you wouldn't mind being seen in, and get back to living your life!
This is a great time - time you have to yourself, time you can devote to yourself. Don't try to find another woman to get involved with now - there'll be plenty of time for that later. Use this time for yourself - read the books you kept putting off, take on those projects around your place that you never seemed to be able to find time for. Look into the hobbies you're curious about but also never seemed to have time for. Go places and do things that interest you, not just to gratify her. Be wary of the television, though. It's easy just to sink into an easy chair, turn on the tube and pretty much drop out of life. This does you no good - turn the idiot box off!
Get out of the house. Find a nearby national or state park and go take a nice day hike. Go boating. Go kayaking! Get involved in pursuits that actively involve your mind, things that won't allow you to start drifting off, thinking of her. However you do it - hiking, jogging, working out in a gym, or whatever - physical exercise is essential because in addition to all the obvious physical benefits, it serves as an outlet for the frustration, anger and sorrow you're still going to be experiencing from time to time.
Experiment with new things. Take a few weekend trips - there are likely dozens of interesting places to visit and have a nice weekend outing, all within an hour's drive of your home. Resist the urge to party constantly, though - getting drunk will work to pull you back into the pit of depression and self-pity you're working to avoid. Avoid getting emotionally involved with another woman yet - there's still grief that has to be dissipated from your old relationship, and you really want that grief all gone before you embark on a new relationship. If you can, get out and take a real vacation - hop on a plane or a cruise ship, or drive at least a few hours, and spend a week or more someplace you've never been before.
As mentioned earlier, now isn't the time for a new relationship. Now's the time for you to pay attention to yourself, attend to those things you've been overlooking, and enjoy life on your own for a while. You'll know when the time is right to get involved with a new woman - there'll be no stress, no urgency or anxiety about meeting a new woman, just the provocative possibility of a nice time with an interesting woman. Enjoy it then and go forward, never looking back.
