How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back With Love When He Has A New Girlfriend

How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back With Love When He Has A New Girlfriend
What are we to do and how are we to get back with the ex boyfriend when he has a new girl on his arms? Maybe the following article will help. Why? Cause it provides for some pointers on how one can go about doing that in the sanest possible way.

A horribly lonely and anxiety ridden place it can be when you find that your ex has moved on and you're still stuck in a place where his thoughts come knocking pretty often. Horribly, horribly lonely. The reasons you'll broke up could be many, and maybe, at that time, the decision to breakup did seem like the most correct and practical one to take. After the breakup happened, and this one depends on the kind of break up that it was, you were either happy or you were torn, or it took time to get to what you were, because you'd probably forgotten who you were? I'm trying to understand you. The fact is that you were not your original self yet, not yet...and then you found out that your ex has moved on. That there is a new girl and that he seems happy. And you convince yourself that she's the one. She's the one he's going to end up marrying and buying a huge house for and their fake laughter will fill the spaces and you'll be someone who he will look at as the biggest mistake of his life and...stop, stop, stop! Maybe you don't turn into a raving lunatic like I just described, but there is that time period that you spend oscillating between being insecure, angry and a mix of several other thoughts. Then doubts start making way and you start to wonder whether you'll breaking up was such a wise decision after all. No matter who initiated it.

Can it work? Can you ever make it back with an ex? And if you can, then the question of how to get your ex boyfriend back when he has a new girlfriend will start to make an uncomfortable entry into your mind...over and over again. The more you'll think about it, the more it'll start to seem like it's the best idea ever. I won't lie, it is a mighty tough situation to be stuck in, but there are ways to make it work and we will be exploring the aspect of getting him back in the article that follows.

How to Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back If He has a Girlfriend

You want this to happen fast, don't you? Like you wish for it and poof! there it is happening right there for you. Not going to happen. There is no way of getting your ex boyfriend back fast, nope. It just has to take its own course, you know? No matter how anxious you are. Here are some things you'll have to look into.

Be Sane and Insanely Busy
I'm really not in the favor of losing your identity to be with him. That should never happen. So don't go making desperate clingy calls over and over again. Don't make drunken calls of how you miss him and want him back etc, etc. Wait this period out patiently till you think you're strong enough to take sane decisions again that help you keep your self-esteem intact. This can get very tough to do when you're constantly thinking about him and doing nothing much else to keep yourself busy. In the initial stages then, surround yourself with friends and go do whatever it takes to not be thinking about him.

Why Do You Want Him Back?
When you're over that initial stage and can think again, you need to do some serious introspection. Why do you want him back? Is it cause you miss him, are used to him, see him with someone new? Then none of these reasons suffice. Cause no matter where you sit at and for whatever reasons you want him back for, is it right to go about using underhanded means to get what you want? Think about why you broke up. Really think. Only when you have convinced yourself of why you want him back and can look in the mirror just fine every single day, then we can go on to the next steps. If there is even a flicker of doubt, don't go there.

Hoping for a Rebound
Then you fervently pray that what he has going with this other girl is a rebound relationship. Why? Cause statistics prove that people who get into relationships relatively early after a breakup usually do so to fill a void and that these relationships are not the real thing. If that is the case then he'll probably be getting over the relationship fast enough and you can move in (if that is really what you want)

Show Him What You've Got
So let's suppose he broke up with you and then he got a new girlfriend. And you? And you were left asking how to get your ex boyfriend back when he broke up with you and seems to have moved on. This is the worst situation to be in. The chances of your ego taking a severe beating are highest in this one. And there's nothing you can do. Or may be you can. Show him what he's missing out on. Psyche yourself into being the most confident, the most accomplished you've ever been and then do all those things to make him regret his decision. You know what his favorite joints are. Go there with a group of friends and have a blast. Party like crazy, flirt like crazy and be happy like crazy. Do not give him the satisfaction that he's been able to crumble your spirit. When he sees that you're doing just fine, maybe even better without him and all those guys hovering around you, there will be that one tiny thought nudging him if not blaring across his brain with neon lights about why he let you go. I know it sounds much simpler to read than to do, especially when you're breaking inside, but try. When you see him looking at you like that, believe me, the satisfaction you feel is...out of this world. After that if he does come back to you, whether to take him back or replace him with someone new is totally, totally up to you.

Starting from Scratch
Hm. What if you broke up with him, he moved on and now you want him back? How convenient. Unfortunately, it doesn't work that way. He is not an elastic band that you wax and wane as and when you want. Please don't be one of those girls. Want him back because you really want him back and want to make an honest go at it. Otherwise your asking 'how to get him back' is just not right. Be ethical when you do this. Think about the fact whether you would want someone doing the same to you and only then get to it. Here are some steps that you can follow:
Be friends first. That means no pleas and no confessions. Simple friendship. He needs to trust you again and you need to ensure that.
Apologize if you broke his heart. Knowing that you are sorry for the way things worked out will help his healing process and get you to be friends faster.
Be there for him whenever he needs you. Call him or message him neutral things in the day. Like a favorite tune on the radio. This will tell him that you think about him.
When the friendship has reached a comfortable stage and let's hope the rebound relationship has fallen through, there might be a time when he might start to think about "you'll". If that happens, you will know that he's OK with and maybe even thinking of getting back.
Be absolutely sure that you're not reading too much into it. Wait patiently and observe for similar clues. Once you get them, then you can start to hint at getting back by using sentences like 'I miss the way we were together' etc.
After this one, whatever happens is a matter of what is going on in his mind, the mental status that he is in and what he wants from the deal. If all goes right and the need to be with each other (for real) shines through, nothing can stop it from happening. No exs and no whys.


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