How To Meet Women Online: The Biggest Time Wasters You Should AVOID At All Costs

There are billions and billions of Internet sites on the Web, and it's easy to get lost in the endless sea of dot coms, dot orgs and whatever else is out there. When you're meeting women online, it's much the same: flashy profiles, not being able to tell the forest from the trees, and more. In fact, the general male public DROWNS in the endless number of possible women to message and sites to join, and it's time to separate the good from the bad and the ugly.

I'm talking about how to make sure you're not unnecessarily WASTING time online, because it's easy to get distracted, consume time because of indecision and other wastes of time and energy. So I'd like to give you THREE tips that will SAVE you all the time you'll need to meet and date the women of your choice.

Tip #1: Don't Message Women With Only One Photo

I see a sea of dumb & dumberers message women with only one photo every day, and I wonder why they don't realize it ISN'T a smart thing to do. Think about: if a woman only uploads ONE photo of herself for the world to see on her profile, you can bet that she will upload the absolute best photo she can find, probably the best one ever made.

Why? Pure LOGIC. If you can only fire one shot at the enemy when you're at war, of course you'll fire the best atom bomb you can find and not some random, squeeky spear that breaks in half during flight.

A woman will pick the one photo that will show her from the best angle, and what this means is that she can only DISAPPOINT you in real life because it's only a matter of time before you'll see her from a different angle than the best one. Duh.

When a woman has MULTIPLE photos on her profile on the other hand, you can COMPARE the best ones with the worst ones and you'll have a pretty good idea of what she REALLY looks like. When that doesn't disappoint, you can go for it.

Conclusion: women with multiple photos tend to disappoint way less often than women with one photo because you can compare, so do yourself a favor and don't get too excited about the girl with one photo.

Tip #2: Check Out When She Was Last Online

I can understand how you would chase skirts all over the place because there are just so damn many women online, but that's a BIG MISTAKE.

You see, there are 'lots of women who HAVEN'T been online for a while. When it's for one to two weeks, then it's okay because women DO have a life just like us you know. Plus, they could also be on vacation.  But when a woman hasn't been online for 3 weeks up to several months? Take a hint, friend: why would she ever be online tomorrow when she wasn't interested in checking out her profile today, or yesterday?

You can forget it, because chances are she has either lost interest in the site OR has forgotten all about it when she hasn't been on for 3 weeks or more, so SKIP all women that were last online more than 3 weeks ago.

Why? Do the math: say it takes you 5 minutes to write a message and you spend one hour a day on messaging women, that's 12 messages a day. What would happen if you would just randomly message women all week without looking at that last online thingie? Since the average active versus inactive rate on any site is about 50%, that would mean you're WASTING 3 to 5 hours per week, that's 42 messages sent for NOTHING, pal!

Most men never realize this, so imagine the consequences on a larger timescale: it's WASTING 182 hours (or 2184 messages!) every year that you're online, hours you COULD have spend on messaging women that do check out their profile regularly.

 Tip #3: Don't Stall, Hit-And-Run!

When I give any of my male friends a computer, let them sign up for a profile on some random social network and then ask them to send a message to 20 women, what do they do? 

• They check out her photos
• They read her descriptions
• They see who she's friends with
• They read her comments
• They read her interests
• They check out the videos or audio she has on her profile 

In other words: they read her ENTIRE profile, and it's a waste of time because when you're meeting women online, you don't HAVE to talk about everything on her profile. So you go in, pay attention to what matters, and then you move on.

Since 99% of the messages women receive are about their looks (messages like: you're so pretty, is heaven missing an angel and so on), see if she's cute of course but THEN talk to her about who she IS, not how she looks.

How? The easiest way is her INTERESTS: what does she like to do? What are her passions, her hobbies, her sports, her likes? Then pick the one you can easily talk about, give it a twist and TEASE her with it. If she likes pasta for example, I playfully tease her by asking her if she's a wannabe mobster and how do I know her uncle isn't called The Don.

And next! So I enter the profile, see if she's cute, see when she was last online, see her interests, message her about the one I can tease her the easiest with, and I'm gone. No video, no audio, no scrolling through all her friends, no comment spying or reading every word on her profile-- I read what I can use, use it, and I'm out.  Another BLUNDER the vast majority of men make is that even when they AREN'T distracted by all the fancy stuff on a woman's profile, they hang around WAY too long.

Say the girl just doesn't HAVE something on her profile you can work with or you don't have any inspiration. Maybe her hobbies are all boring, maybe you can't think of anything. Then DON'T go and try to FORCE a message out of yourself by making some comment about volleyball, because even if she replies the first time you'll bite the dust at second base buddy.

Of course ALL profiles will be challenging to work with at first and you'll get more creative over time. I'm not saying you should SKIP all profiles that present you with a challenge, I'm saying go for it when you can think of something in 10 minutes and LEAVE when you can't.

Don't worry, you'll get better over time, but don't be like the rest of the guys out there that spend 30 minutes on messaging one woman because they just HAVE to meet her-- can't think of something? Don't make it too hard for yourself and say: neeext!