My Girlfriend Dumped Me - How I Got Her Back

The first thing that I thought of as my girlfriend dumped me was to phone her and convince her to give me an extra chance. You have changed and things would be better now. You're a new man and have come to your senses. It's alright for her to spend time with her close friends on occasion and you've come around and have faith in her completely. You're prepared to take a step back and allow her a little space. Out of the blue you have turned into a better guy.

You dial her up and she picks up the telephone and acts with good grace but tells you she does not believe you and that she must have a little while to think everything out and make a decision. Everything seems fine and you hang up, optimism revives in you. The following day you want to hang out with her and get coffee or something and so you get a hold of her again. She can't meet up since she's spending time with a "friend" from one of her classes to work on a school project; maybe a different day of the week could be better. It feels as though you have had your heart ripped out and you go insane attempting not to think of the two of them making out over a Economics textbook.

You begin phoning her for hours on end and sending her voicemails and emails and begin to inundate her. Her first remark is that you have not changed a bit. You're the same nagging, shallow, disappointing person you were when she dumped you. She decides that the headache isn't worth it and gets a new number, black-lists you from her email and you're alone and hurt after the loss of your one opportunity to win her back.

I'll tell you I did not take the breakup well.  I would hide in my car down the street from her place to see if she was spending time with other guys. I would sit there for hours holding out and when she at last showed up I would straight away regret everything. Just seeing them together made me feel horrible. I could not tolerate that idea that my girlfriend dumped me. I would try to know where my ex might be when she would spend time with her friends and I would "just happen to" go there intending to speak to her and get her away from her group. My ex-girlfriend would become anxious the second she noticed me enter the cafe or club. She would roll her eyes at her friends and they would leave in the next couple of minutes.

This is not what you desire to happen to you.  The reality is, you can win your ex-girlfriend back, but you will need to be relaxed about it and you'll need to have a proper approach.  When you just do what I did when my girlfriend dumped me, you're really going to screw everything up.

It doesn't matter how lousy the situation might appear, you can salvage your relationship.  You simply ought to back off somewhat and give her some personal space to think things through and grant her a while to actually miss you (take my word, she will definitely miss you in due course).  My girlfriend dumped me and I did everything completely wrong initially, but I gradually figured out what I had to do and saved our relationship before everything became too much out of hand.

The first and most sensible thing you must do, when you are feeling like your breakup is making you pushing you over the line is to really detach from your girlfriend.  Make the promise to yourself to not make contact with her for two to four weeks.  Make use of this time to focus on yourself and get yourself straight.  This is what I did when my girlfriend dumped me, and it became a a changing point for everything.