Secret to Learning How to Flirt - A Story to Learn From

John was just like your ordinary twenty five year old man.  He hungered for a beautiful woman to spend his nights with.  Yet, he continually wore up alone.  But unlike most men who resign themselves to a fate of desperation and loneliness, John refused to give up.

Most guys fail in their quest to find the woman of their dreams because they never learn how to attract a woman.  More specifically, they never learn how to flirt with a woman.  Most guys assume it's their looks, their bank account, or their lack of a social scene that is preventing them from meeting a woman.  When in fact, it their inability to open up their mouth and flirt with a woman in a way that sparks attraction and sexual desire- that forever keeps them lonely.

John had figured this out early in life.  Back in high school he sat and watched as the more "popular" guys easily flirted with the girls, had them laughing, and would soon be getting intimate with them.  However, John was extremely shy around girls.  In fact, he could hardly say "hello" to a girl without getting sweaty palms- and the thought of flirting with girls absolutely terrified him.

Years later, John made a firm decision to himself that he was going to learn to flirt with women.  But like most men who are inexperienced at flirting, John made all of the usual mistakes men make flirting with women.

John's first big mistake was that instead of coming across as fun and exciting as he talked to women, he often came across as academic and boring.  This is because John thought that he could impress women with his intelligence, and by showing them what a nice guy he is.  It didn't take long for John to realize that although women say they want a "nice" guy, they usually wound up with the "bad boys."

But instead of resenting these "bad boys" like most other unsuccessful men tend to do, John decided to study how bad boys flirt with women, and try to model their approach.

As John watched these "bad boys" flirting with women, he noticed a few common themes.

First, John noticed that "bad boys" rarely had long in-depth conversations with women, but instead, they would just playfully tease women, almost as if they were two kids back on the playground in the fourth grade.

Second, John noticed that "bad boys" very rarely spent a lot of time complimenting women or trying to impress them.  Instead, these "bad boys" would usually call women names like "dork" or "nerd" and even times when they did compliment a woman, they would usually follow it up by playfully teasing them.

As John watched these "bad boys" he began to understand a little bit more how to flirt, but he was still missing one ingredient.   John realized that he was too uncomfortable with sexual tension.  When a silence came in the conversation, instead of letting the tension build, John would quickly try to diffuse it with a joke.  This kept him from progressing the flirtation forward.

Finally, after realizing that he had to be both playful and seductive while flirting with women, John began to see real results.  He began enjoying his conversation with women more, and his ability to flirt with women increased to the point that we routinely getting phone numbers and dates from the women he was talking to.