Raising Emotionally Healthy Children
As parents, we want to make everything right and magnificent for our children. We want to remove disagreement, disappointment, rejection, and failure from their lives. But we need to remember that life is a process. Children will encounter conflict, disappointment, rejection, and failure as they move through life. It is by giving them a strong sense of self-love, self-concept, and self-esteem that we prepare them to learn what life is all about. This is our most vital task as parents.
Raising Emotionally Healthy Children includes giving your children the confidence and tools to be able to make good decisions,
to break down fearsome tasks into smaller, workable tasks, to organize themselves, and to have the skill to overcome challenges and sets-back while leading a happy fruitful life.Our work as men and women raising children is important because our influence lasts a lifetime. But what are the most essential gifts we give our children? Self-love, self-concept and self-esteem.
Self-Love
Self-love is the most important of all skills. It is a concept that children learn from the way parents treats them. Children first need to know that they are loved and accepted for who they are. With this as a basis, their natural desire is to take that love and learn to contribute it to the world in constructive ways. It is not difficult then, to see that self-love is the best gift we can give our broods.Self-love in children, as in adults, means liking themselves, enjoying themselves, and accepting themselves. Children need to know that although parents may not always like what they do, or have done, we still like and love them. There is a great difference between rejecting a child’s behavior and rejecting the child. Help the child understand that he or she is a human being and as a human being he or she will make mistakes. Our goal is to help children learn from those mistakes and help them in making corrections.
Self-Concept
Self-concept is the image we have of ourselves. It means liking ourselves just the way we are. To educate children about self-concept, we must look at them without labels or comparisons. If a child is taller than most of the other children in his or her class, he or she may feel embarrassed. However, if the child is taught that his or her height is an asset of which to be proud, the child will grow up with respect for him- or herself and others
According to nursery teacher training there are things about every child that are exclusive and unique. It is by zeroing in on each special quality—whether it is their willingness to let someone else ride their trike, their quirky sense of humor, or their ability to carry a tune—that we give children a positive sense of self. Children take great pride and enjoyment in the knowledge that there is no one exactly like them in the world. Share a child’s uniqueness by looking into his or her eyes with a smile that says, “You are special. I love to be with you!”
Self-Esteem
Self-esteem has been defined as “the sense of being adorable and
capable.” When these two qualities are in sync, a child has high self-esteem. Children learn about themselves and know themselves only by
reflection. For the first important years of their lives, teacher training feels that parents are the major influence providing this reflection to the child. Later on, teachers and friends in addition to parents provide this reflection.
