Effective Discipline Techniques – Setting Physical Limits

This will require you to not allow them to hurt themselves, yourself, or anyone else while you listen to their emotions and built up feelings that are going to be spilled out.

Now, your true intention is to establish a trusting and loving source of support for your child. Establishing this physical limit, you are going to be restraining your child from hurting him or herself or breaking anything while showing an unconditional source of love an understanding.

You might have to physically hold your child, but only do so if you are not angry. Hold your child in a loving and supportive way, conveying a posture of love. Reach out to your child with eye contact and a loving voice, all the while maintaining a loving body posture throughout the tantrum or crying.

The more that you maintain this loving posture, the more likely it is that your child will feel secure and trusting. He or she will release the built up fears and emotions and will work it out until he is through the pain.

By implementing effective discipline techniques, you will find that if you are supportive in this way, you will see that the tears and the anger will turn into sobbing. Your child might continue to cry for sometime, but the anger and the tantrums have stopped and their emotions and fears are being spilled out through their tears. This is not going to happen if you are forceful and get angry while they are throwing their tantrums.

Remember that they need to feel secure and trusting in you in order for this transition from anger and tantrum throwing to sobbing in your arms to take place. You will also find that during this release your child might say some things about you that you will not like. This is normal as he or she is trying to keep the pent up emotions from working out. You need to understand that your child is not in a thinking state of mind at this point.

When using these effective discipline techniques, do not physically restrain your child that is in any way out of anger or extremely heavy treatment. While you are holding them with loving arms, you will possibly hear them yell that you are holding them too tighly or they cannot breathe, maybe even let go of me. You might even hear them say that they hate you. But once they feel the security of your hold, they will be overcome with a sense of connectivity with you, and their closeness will return as their emotions are completely let out.

After all of this takes place, you are possibly going to feel emotionally drained and tired. It is important to note though that if you are unable to physically restrain your child without hurting them, then you should not use this method of setting physical limits.