If you are a newly divorced, single mother with limited means, you've been called upon to unfold some talents that are lying dormant within you. Home repairs can be a lot of fun and a great source of feeling good about yourself.
In the early days of your divorce, you are too new in this field of divorce to know much about doing home repairs. I've found that when wisdom sees that you are ready, badda bing! Up comes an opportunity. This is a prime time to learn home repairs and once you dive in, you'll find that it's challenging and a lot of fun.
1. A great way to learn home maintenance first hand is to work with the Habitat for Humanity people. You'll be taught how to swing a hammer, use a saw or use power tools. And you'll be with others who are also learning how, so any discomfort you might feel spreads around among the bunch of you.
2. There is a great site for teaching women how to do home projects (they have over 200 projects currently posted) at www.BeJane.com.
3. Make friends with your local Do-It Center or Home Depot employees. Tell them what you want to do and see if the store might be holding a how-to class. If not, ask the department personnel to explain what you need to do, and what you need to purchase to get that job done.
4. The next part happens when you arrive on your home front with everything you purchased and a feeling of overwhelm about how to begin. A tip that's gotten me to the end of a project is to ask myself at the beginning: "Can you see ONE step to take? Can you take that one?" The next one always shows up. It takes willingness, perseverance and bit of courage to begin, persevere through all the steps and then enjoy your handicraft.
5. Go to used book stores and purchase How-To books. In this day of the internet, all of those old How-To Encyclopedias can be had for a song, and then as the projects show up, you'll be at the ready to dig in there and do it.
6. Be creative. I knew a lady who wanted to replace a garbage disposal. It's kind of tough to hold it up underneath the sink and tighten it down from above, so this very creative lady got the jack from her car (you do know how to use a jack, right?) and jacked the disposal in place while she worked on it from above. Clever girl!
7. Keep all your tools together in an easy to carry container. Plastic cat liter containers are great and if you're handy sewing, you can make an apron with pockets for it to hold tools on the inside and on the outside.
8. Home Improvement television shows are a great source for educating your newly growing expertise. You can learn a lot from watching designers re-do homes with the help of their talented handymen on HGTV. Those fellows have great tips for making the jobs easier.
9. There are toolkits designed for women. I cannot see any difference beyond the color of the tool, and what difference does color make on a hammer or screwdriver. A tool only needs to be functional to work. Color does not improve functionality.
Because of divorce, you are often challenged to unfold some more talent from within yourself, and for single moms, home repair is one of those places. Do research on the internet. The internet is today's library and contains up the minute advice on how to accomplish any project. You can if you think you can!
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