Make Time To Love Your Partner After Baby Has Arrived

Life has changed Big Time - baby has arrived. You feel proud, full of happiness but tired out and find it very difficult to make time for quility time with your partner. This is the danger time when relationships can start to come apart. It is essential that you reaffirm your love for your partner as the new arrival can easily take up most of your time. You can generally make it so that you are both involved with the same task, for example, the bedtime story. That way, you spend time together as well as with your baby. Once baby is asleep, it can be difficult for you to make the effort to spend time with your partner - do it! Even if it is just for a few minutes.

In order to make more quality time for each other, at some point you will need to organise a babysitter so that you can go out - to the restaurant, cinema, theatre, or whatever. But the big problem then is to decide who to trust to do the job. You may be lucky enough to live near family, they are often more than willing to look after your baby, especially if they have had a family themselves.

But if that is not the case you will have to find a professional babysitter. That can be very time consuming and they may not always be available. When choosing a babysitter, always check their credentials very carefully. Take up references and talk with people who use their services. Ask these people about punctuality, reliability, has their child ever seemed upset about the sitter and so on. Interview the potential sitter, find out about their training and double check with the trainers that they have really been and how they fared. Ask the sitter what they would do in cases of emergency to establish how they would react. If there is an agency in your region, most of that will have been done, but it is still worth interviewing the sitter before the first visit to find out their character for yourself.

A good alternative to this is to join or set up a babysitting circle in your neighbourhood. You will undoubtedly get to know many of the other families with babies and toddlers who live close to you. They will all be in the same situation and want free time themselves, sometimes at short notice - many of them will be willing to babysit for you in return for the same favor from yourself. But a circle like this needs committment - beware of the ones who come up with excuses or never seem to be available to take their turn. Usually though, the circle will work perfectly and not only will you have baby time, you have time to love your partner as well, keeping your relationship strong.

Finally, do not just assume that because you have a baby you can be a babysitter, there are many training courses available such as the Superbabysitting DVD that you can buy. These can also help to improve your parenting skills. A great idea is for your babysitting circle to club together and buy one between you.

Disclaimer: This is for informational purposes only, we can not accept any liability for any decision you make when organising care for your child.