The Comedy-Clip Relationship

Have you noticed it?

Watch television programming on any given night, and you receive comedy clips from up-and-coming episodes of popular comedy sitcoms.

Ray Romano slyly puts down his wife's cooking while his dad belittles his mom in the name of humor and a few laughs. Doug makes glib and quirky remarks for laughs to his buddies about his wife's hair on King of Queens.

Now, I love to laugh as much as the next person. I enjoy living life with lightheartedness. I often think we just need to lighten up a little bit and enjoy life more.

But not when it comes to using my wife as a comic clip for someone else's humorous moment. I value her more than that.

The very person who trusts me more than anyone should not suffer because of me.
Have you ever seen it?

Have you ever watched the words of humor wound the heart of another in a relationship? Have you ever noticed the wince of pain as the "laughter" dagger finds its mark? Sure, they're smiling, but the smile doesn't quite go all the way to the eyes.

I have seen it many times, and it's not a pretty sight.

I recently saw this villain in action at a photo shoot. The husband sat down at the photographer's leading on a bench that he was to share with his wife. The whole family was in the room when he glibly remarked, "Are you sure she can fit on this bench?"

Everybody laughed!

Everybody, that is, except her. All she could say over and over again was how "not funny" it all was.

I thought for a moment that she was going to leave the room. Sadly, the most important part of her did, her heart.

The comedy-clip relationship dagger strikes again!

Everybody may love Raymond, but not everybody loves to be on the receiving end of one of those "Raymond comedy-clip" moments in real life.

The next time you think of filling a room with laughter at your significant other's expense, stop and think about the time the laugh was at your own.

Creates a different perspective on things, doesn't it?

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