Starting the Conversation About in Home Care

When the time comes to take about in-home care, you should make the necessary plans to keep your loved ones safe. While it might be difficult for you to have the talk with your loved ones, you don’t want to put off this conversation until there is an emergency such as injuries or illness. Be sure to engage in conversations that will not make your parents feel like children because they don't want to be seen as persons who as not able capable or independent enough to care for their needs.

Always keep the communication lines open with loved ones as this will help you to determine what is best for their home care desires and needs. A good recommendation is to think through and plan carefully for the conversation so that it is kept as productive and positive as possible.

Here are some tips to help you start home care conversations:
Start the conversation from early while your parents are in good health to participate fully and share their needs, wants and preferences. This will also give you more options and time as well as a better opportunity to help them continue living at home.

You should get other members of the family involve. It’s best to do this before talking with your parent to avoid a situation that is confrontational or unproductive. Decide on the most comfortable place and time for everyone to ensure that the conversation is unhurried and relaxed. Avoid the special gatherings such as holiday celebrations and birthday.

Remember that your loved ones are adults, so try not to talk them in a manner that is patronizing, disrespectful or would make them feel like young children. Everyone is on the same team, so you want to work with your parents to come up with the right solutions. Ask some open-end questions that will encourage your loved ones to share their feelings. Ensure that you sit back and listen carefully to know what is most important to them.

Lastly, ask your loved ones what they prefer and get them involved in the decision making process. This will allow them to exercise control and have some independence. In most cases, elderly persons will talk freely and participate in finding solutions if they sense that you are helping them to maintain independence.