The article explains how divorce helps resolve an emotional problem by providing a rational process through which a marriage can be legally concluded.
For as long as marriage has existed, divorce has always been a part of it. Despite popular conceptions of divorce as a modern affliction, the ancient Romans had a thriving divorce rate, with the more affluent and rich Romans (especially in the later imperial period) frequently divorcing their mates in order to improve their social standing or purely as a political move, so they could marry the daughters and sisters of their allies or adversaries.
The fact remains that divorce is a rational and legal mechanism that provides a lawful conclusion to a marriage, although it may sound and perverse to us today. It is an attempt to impose a rational solution on what is essentially an emotional decision by putting a married couple through a set structure of events and procedures. The most important aspect of divorce is this distinction between the rational and the emotional.
Don't Step Back
Many people view divorce as a button they can push to automatically take care of the problem, which are usually emotions that led to, and flared up, during a divorce. Some couples, as soon as they decide to end their marriage, also try to insulate themselves from the gritty details by hiring a lawyer, and then trying to step back from the process and let it happen without their direct involvement. This is where most couples make one the biggest mistake one can make when undergoing a divorce: minimal involvement. If you want to gain better end results, you will have to be more involved in the process. You will be deciding on the important aspects of your current life and the one you're going be living when you become single again so it is essential to be directly involved in making those decisions.
Regret Is An Emotion, Too
By its very nature, divorce is already a complicated process. It is, can and will be further complicated if you let your emotions get in the way. Property, support, custody and visitation are just a few among vast array of details that you will have to settle in the course of the proceedings. Again, it is now more important than ever to be more involved in order to make sure that the final terms will be better for you. Pulling back from the process in order to numb yourself, and letting your emotions rule the day are bot counter-intuitive to your cause. If you let this happen, the details of the final settlement may end up not being what you would have preferred them to be and you will look back months or years later and wish you'd been more involved.
One of the most important aspects of divorce is recognizing this dichotomy between emotional problems and rational solutions. When you allow emotional distress to remove you from overseeing the process, it turns divorce, an effective tool, into a blunt one, and that helps no one in the long run.
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