Adult Dating Tips: The 3 Rules of Instant Messaging

Instant messaging is easily the best way to initiate contact with someone online, because it lets you be the person you’ve always wanted to be “in person.” What do I mean by this? For example, you’ve always been too timid to approach women in clubs. In using instant messaging, all those obstacles are taken away. It is like a shot of instant courage, giving you a boost of confidence and making you seem suave and cool without any reservations. Plus, it allows you to be spontaneous while conducting real-time conversations, except you have time to think of what you’ll say next. This huge benefit is one of the reasons why it’s so popular.

Fortunately, most online adult dating sites have an instant messaging feature. However, don’t rush into using it just yet. Let me give you some adult dating rules to make sure you have a successful instant messaging experience.

•Rule #1: Do Your Homework Before Initiating Contact

Just like writing your personal online ad, your first instant message to a potential partner should be engaging and interesting to immediately hook up and reel in a woman you’re attracted to. And to pull this off, you should know something specific about her.

What to do: Read her personal ad thoroughly before initiating contact, so you can find something that you both have in common. If you find none, find anything of interest, and start asking questions.

•Rule #2: Be Engaging, Funny and Brief; Don’t Be a Blabbermouth

Instant messaging is actually a face-to-face conversation with a person, only you’re doing it through a computer. So if you’re talkative and boring, she’ll drop you like a hot potato.

What to do: Your statements should be short, sweet, direct to the point, and stimulating to keep her interested. Try to imagine yourself in a club having a conversation with her. The sentences that come out of your mouth should be quick and conversational, and this is how exactly how you should “speak” on IM to keep her interested.

•Rule #3: Be Charming, But Subtle

Advertising writers get best results with being subtle, because people build an instinctive resistance when they think a salesperson is trying to sell them something. This is no different in instant messaging. If you hit on a woman with a bunch of pick up lines, she’s likely to get so annoyed that she blocks you from her IM contacts list. So the best way to do this is be subtle.

What to do: Women like to receive compliments, so try doing this through instant messaging too. Say something nice about her avatar picture, and they will surely respond positively.