The Smoking Fetish: Is It The Newest Form Of Sexual Stimulation?

In the last several years I've noticed a steady increase in a certain type of sexual stimulation known as the smoking fetish.

The question I posed to myself was of a different nature. What does olfactory stimulation, or the sense of smell, as related to exhaled cigarette smoke, have to do with sexual excitement?

For thousands of years it has been known that the sense of smell can stimulate sexual response in human beings and other animals.

Pheromones are chemical molecules secreted and fit specifically at olfactory receptor sites at locations in the nasal canal. These receptor sites, in turn, send signals to the brain. These signals usually cause a sexual stimulatory response in the opposite sex, and attraction occurs.

Millions of dollars are spent producing perfumes, colognes, and other various fragrances in the attempt to cause one human to attract another through the sense of smell. If the opposite sex likes the smell, an attraction can occur.  This attraction, in turn, eventually leads to some form of sexual attraction.  The long-term goal of the sexual attraction, of course, is to influence that person into some sexual encounter.

There has been scores of scientific studies researching the effects of pheromones and fragrances, that cause sexual attraction between humans.

There has been one scent, or smell, entirely overlooked by the scientific community.

I don't know if it is so much new, or just recently discovered. But there exists a smell that causes very strong sexual responses. At least in some people. Perhaps many people. This olfactory response, or smell, is simply the smell of exhaled cigarette smoke.

Don't laugh. I'm totally serious.

All you have to do is conduct a search on the Internet of smoke fetishes, and you'll find millions of web sites related to the subject of smoking and sexual excitement.

I wanted to know why, and why the smell of smoke is so sexually exciting to many, with the increasing political incorrectness associated with it.

The Smoking Fetish

There are several different aspects and reasons why a person can be excited by the act of smoking. Usually it's by watching the act.

The most predominant form of sexual fetish I've researched is the male watching the female perform the act of cigarette smoking.

After researching this subject and being a little confused as to why this fetish even exists, I've obtained information that has not only satisfied much of my curiosity about the subject, but has also given me reasons as to why this fetish exists.

The male seems to experience a sexual tension, or high, watching an attractive woman light up and bring the cigarette to her lips to draw the smoke in. The act of drawing, commonly referred to as pumping, or double pumping the smoke is accompanied by hollowing of the cheeks. This is followed by a long, drawn out, exhalation of smoke into the air through pursed lips.

Some of us are more orally fixated than others.  It has been scientifically documented that people who smoke, moreover females who smoke, have greater oral fixations then people who don't smoke.  I'm certainly not sexist, as I'm a woman myself. But there does seem to exist in the literature an association between oral fixation and smoking.

Even though I have gone over many of the visual stimulation affects that smoking has on people, which can be very stimulating to someone, I am not focusing on this subject right now in this article.

The focus of this article is more specifically on the actual olfactory response, or smell, of the exhaled smoke itself. First of all, I must state there is no problem finding many people who cannot stand the smell of smoke in any form or fashion. With that said and out of the way, let's press forward.

Why does the smoking fetish exist?

Does the smell of the exhaled smoke play a part in the fetish?

There is certainly a visual sexual attractiveness to the act of smoking.  Watching a women bring a slim, long, white cigarette to her red lips, make contact with her lips, followed by performing the oral act of the cheek hollowing drawing in, inhaling and exhaling the smoke into the air can certainly cause sexual tension in some men.

But the focus of this article, again, is on the actual smell of the exhaled smoke itself.

When a woman exhales smoke into the air, with a sexual connotation, there is something sexually stimulating about watching the smoke roll through the air and slowly dissipate.  Now let us focus on the actual smell of the cloud of exhaled smoke.

For one thing, there is certainly a difference in the smell of exhaled smoke as compared to the smell of uninhaled smoke.  There are certain kinds of secondhand smoke.  There's smoke that rises off the end of the cigarette.  There is the smoke that's drawn in orally into the oral cavity and if not inhaled into the lungs, but blown out, is heavier and smells different than inhaled smoke.  On the other hand, when the smoke is drawn in, and inhaled into the lungs and blown out into the air, it certainly has different properties and a different smell.  The smell is different than any other smell of the cigarette.

I challenge anyone to have someone light a cigarette somewhere, and smell the smoke that comes from one end, and then smell the smoke that is inhaled and blown into the air. They will smell something completely different.

The smoke that's been inhaled, followed by a long plume exhalation into the air is a much different smell.  I must admit, it's a lighter, more fragrant smell. Even as this exhaled smoke dissipates into the air one will notice the different smell.  Many people describe the smell as not only better than the other smells of the cigarette, but actually a good, pleasant smell.  This perception of the smell of this kind of smoke is not only from smokers themselves, but from many nonsmokers also.

For example, I've had many people, even nonsmokers, explain to me that they cannot stand the smell of smoke in the air. The residual smoke and the smell of smoke on clothing, furniture, or in the room.  However, they have the different perception of freshly exhaled smoke, especially from the opposite sex as perhaps when experienced in a public place such as a restaurant or bar.

Let me share story with you.  One man came into my therapy session and explained that he had a smoking fetish.  He didn't realize he had this fetish until recently.  However, he went on to explain that he's never smoked and he could not stand the smell of smoke. However, he had a girlfriend who smokes.  They were in a restaurant one night and she lit up the cigarette and he was slightly offended at this act, but since he had a few drinks, he thought he was much more relaxed about the whole thing.

While watching his girlfriend's smoking he noticed that he became more interested in the way she brought the cigarette to her lips, drew the smoke in and exhaled the smoke.

What really surprised him was before he got up to use the restroom his girlfriend took a long drag of her cigarette and blew the smoke into an area away from him.  As he walked to the restroom he ended up walking right through the cloud of her exhaled smoke.  As he walked through this cloud he could not believe he experienced the strongest sexual stimulation and urges he's never felt in his life.  Following this, he was very curious about the whole experience.  So he asked his girlfriend to blow her plume of smoke toward him and eventually right in his face.

Wanting to experiment with this more, when they arrived home, he asked her if she wouldn't mind if she blew more smoke in his face.  As she was smoking and she blew the plume of smoke into the air, the smoke slowly dissipated and made its way to his nose, he again experienced sexual sensations.

He admitted he was half embarrassed by the whole thing, but still curious. He asked his girlfriend to blow the smoke toward him every time she would exhale.  She gladly accommodated him.  The man explained that he was excited at not only the smell but the way the smoke slowly made its way to his face either through plumes rolling through the air or slowly making its way in waves toward him, like a lava lamp.  As this exhaled smoke made its way to his nose, again, it stimulated him in a fashion he could not explain.

Needless to say, that night he went on to have the best sex that he ever had with his girlfriend. He explained he had the most intense orgasm he had ever experienced.

When I asked him what he thought caused all of this, he could not explain.  The only thing he could explain was that the smell was more feminine and reflected a peculiar attractive smell.  He explained that the smell of her exhaled smoke was somehow a reflection of her own pleasure.  He also explained something very interesting to me.  He went on to say that since the smoke was inside her attractive, feminine body, and exhaled it was somehow altered by her femininity and sexually exciting.

Again there is a certain sexual connotation to this.  The man was referring to the smoke being inside of her, followed by being exhaled outside of her.  This could be compared to the sexual act of being inside the woman, followed by a release and ultimately being outside of her.

I'm not exactly sure how long this smoking fetish has been in existence.  I would suspect that it's been around a long time. However, many people are embarrassed by it for fear of being ridiculed.

With all of the political incorrectness going on about smoking it certainly would be something that someone would wish to suppress.

However with all of the smoking fetish web sites, forums, and discussion groups, the smoking fetish can certainly no longer be denied as one of the strong, and more popular fetishes that exist.  The Internet has proved this.

In conclusion, even though I could partially understand why a man would be excited about watching the woman smoke because of the oral visual effects, I wanted to find out if there was actual stimulation from the smell of the exhaled smoke. Which, again, is certainly different than the smell of smoke not inhaled. 

In my opinion there is a difference. 

I have to admit that I enjoy smoking a Virginia Slim sometimes.  I, myself, have smoked and tried it both ways.  Taking a drag of the cigarette and blowing the smoke out both ways. After inhalation and after not being inhaled. Both myself, as well as my husband, agree that there is a difference.  When I drew the same exact amount of smoke in and inhaled, followed by an exhalation of a long plume of creamy smoke into the air, we both agree that the smell is very nice.  Even sensual. A smell we both like, very much.

I also must admit that my husband liked the smell even though he could not explain why.  By the way, the smell not only was enjoyed by both of us but excited my husband sexually.  This in turn, excited me as well. I have also, actually witnessed men in bars walking, or dancing right into the direct path of exhaled smoke blown by an attractive woman. They tried to be discreet. But they ended up staying in the exhaled smoke cloud as long as they could without being noticed.

Some of the women noticed this and were amused by it. One noticed it and whispered something into her girlfriend's ear and repeated the act two additional times so they could both witness it. Her friend then did it herself to watch the man "discreetly" immerse himself in her exhaled smoke cloud. I've also seen other women who were uncomfortable after noticing men trying to smell their clouds, and moved to other areas. Not surprising. Some women are uncomfortable with this fetish, and don't want to know about it. Others are either amused by it, enjoy it, and happy to accommodate you by blowing smoke either in your face, or at least, toward you.

Still not convinced?

On another occasion, my husband and I went to a very exclusive restaurant for a special evening together. We were dressed for the occasion. My husband wearing a suit and tie, and I was wearing a silky dress, with sheer overlay, and high heels. Very floaty. Being the analyst that I am, I noticed a few things.

One, most of the time as I drew on my cigarette and blew out the smoke, I noticed many male eyes watching.

Two, something very peculiar indeed. While the waiter was bringing back our drinks, I positioned the cigarette between my manicured fingernails away from the waiter, as to be polite, and blew my smoke out into the aisle way toward the floor. As my exhaled plume of smoke rolled toward the floor and pooled there, slowly dissipating, the waiter acted as if he didn't notice anything. However, he actually went out of his way to bend down and position his head right in the midst of my exhaled smoke. He acted as if he was picking something up off the floor. However, nothing was there. For some reason he knelt and bent down as to bath his face in the cloud of my fresh exhaled smoke.

He then walked away in a nervous-like fashion.

I don't know if it was the smell of my exhaled smoke mixed with the perfume I was wearing or what. But there was definitely something to it. My husband and I both noticed him doing this. I just smiled at my husband and the next time the waiter came back, I treated him to another fresh cloud higher up in the aisle-way for him to enjoy.

Again, he took the bait. He kept his face in the cloud until it was completely gone. It was as if he was completely absorbing it.

Even now, when my husband and I go to the mall, we both can identify the smell of freshly exhaled smoke in the air. We smell it, and look around. Sure enough, there's a couple of women sitting on a bench conversing, enjoying a cigarette and cup of coffee. At this point, we can even tell the difference between exhaled female smoke and male smoke, and whether it's a strong unfiltered cigarette, or one of the more feminine cigarettes.

Sounds crazy doesn't it? But it's absolutely true. In fact, as explained, I actually studied it over a three month period and documented my results. Confession, it has been one of my more enjoyable research projects.

I must admit, when studying the top of the line sexually attractive females out there, you know the ones ahead of their game, there is, and has been, evidence that taking a long drag of a cigarette with red luscious lips, followed by blowing long plumes of creamy smoke into the air certainly works in getting attention. All you have to do is watch any movie from the 1940's or 1950's to witness this. Perhaps the smell of this exhaled smoke had also played a role in the attraction. Perhaps it has gone undocumented until now.

Perhaps I'll incorporate some of my therapy sessions to include blowing creamy plumes of smoke in the faces of clients who display sexual inhibitions. Perhaps they'll benefit from it. Then again, perhaps I will.