Organising your own adult dating or swingers party

Have you ever considered hosting your own adult dating or swinger’s party? It's much easier than you may think and there are definitely some big advantages in doing so.

To begin with, the host and hostess are the automatic focal point for guests. Party hosts frequently attract special interest from guests of the opposite sex. They are often perceived as having a certain mystic appeal, especially to women. This is a big advantage to single males who become party hosts, because as an ordinary guest at an adult party, they might otherwise struggle to be accepted by the couples who attend. Even more important is the fact that by hosting his own swinger’s party, a single male automatically overcomes the barrier of getting invited to attend one!

A further advantage is that a host is able to lay the ground rules about who attends and how the party is run. For example, instead of going along to a party where the guests are complete mixture of age groups and types, a host always has the option of stipulating age range and other profile factors in advance.

You might have previously dismissed the idea of hosting your own adult dating party because you thought that it would be a lot of hard work and a great deal of expense. It needn't be either. There is no need to spend hours preparing an elaborate buffet. Some simple snacks and nibbles are all that is required and guests should be advised to bring their own drinks. As far as the overall expenses are concerned, it is perfectly reasonable to ask your guest to make a small financial contribution.

Probably the main concern that people have is thinking that they have nowhere to hold a party. Start by considering using your own home. Adult dating parties and swinger parties are perfectly legal in the U.K., so you don’t have to concern yourself about breaking any laws. These days, the tabloid press have no interest in reporting this type of thing and in any case the recent outcry about press invasion of privacy effectively prevents reporters from snooping into ordinary people’s private affairs.

Don't worry about your friends and neighbours getting to know you are throwing a party; they won’t have any idea what sort of party. It will probably be quieter than the average birthday party and you set whatever limit you want on the number of guests invited. Adult party guests turn up conventionally attired and behave sensibly, showing the upmost respect for property and everything else. Your best carpet isn't likely to get ruined, your bed won't get broken and your valuables are not going to get stolen. If one of your bedrooms is a child's room and you don't want people to use it, simply put a notice on the door saying so. Your wishes will be respected.

If your home isn't a suitable place to host parties in, don’t give up the idea. There are other possibilities.

Firstly you might know someone who does own an ideal property and is willing to hire the use of it to you for an evening. Secondly, you might want to consider hiring a hotel suite.  An even better option is to hire a private apartment. These can be remarkably inexpensive and the cost can easily be covered by the contribution made by guests. The only drawback is that outside of London, private apartments, available for just one day or one weekend renting are very hard to find. For accommodation in a rural area, it might be worth checking out holiday cottages instead.

Having decided upon a suitable venue, you have only to decide what sort of party you are going to organise, the precise arrangements for it and who to invite. If you are starting from scratch, and have no existing circle of like-minded people to invite, the best way to find your guests will be by becoming an active member of a swinger’s club or adult dating site. Most sites have facilities for their members to post their party details on a ‘forthcoming events’ bulletin board. However you will probably need to do more than just rely on the responses you get from the bulletin board and it is advisable to send messages directly to other members, informing them about your party and offering them invitations to it.

In doing so, bear in mind that people like to feel they are being selected on merit and they are very reassured to realise that the other guests will be "Birds of a Feather." When you describe the party, make it sound well organised without giving people the impression that guests will be told what to do and when to do it.Describe the buffet and drinks arrangements, the start and finish times. State any house rules you are introducing and whether there will be any particular dress code. Do all this in an enthusiastic and positive manner and people will want to be invited.

A few of the larger adult dating sites and swinger’s clubs help their members to organise their own parties. So if you have a suitable venue and need some help in finding guests, check out which sites and clubs offer this service; then, when you join, let them know about your venue and party plans.