The Emmaus Journal: The Value of Commonality

Understanding Commonality

The term "common" frequently carries a negative connotation, implying something ordinary, mundane, or inferior. Society often pushes us towards uniqueness and distinction in various forms—be it through wealth, status, or achievements. This pursuit of the exceptional overlooks the intrinsic value found in the ordinary aspects of life and the common traits we share as human beings.

The Stigma of Being Common

Historically, being labeled as "common" was akin to being seen as part of the lower social strata, often associated with lack of sophistication or education. However, this perspective is both limiting and flawed. According to a study by the Pew Research Center, most Americans (85%) say it is extremely or very important for them to be seen as a "regular person," which contradicts the notion that everyone aspires to stand out or climb the social ladder (Pew Research Center, 2018).

The Shift from Common to Unique

In the digital age, the drive for individualism is more pronounced, with social media platforms encouraging users to highlight what makes them unique or exceptional. This shift has significant psychological impacts, including increased feelings of isolation and competitiveness. A report by the American Psychological Association highlights that such platforms can lead to feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem, particularly among young adults (APA, 2019).

The Benefits of Embracing Commonality

Recognizing and valuing common traits can actually enhance our sense of belonging and connection. Here are some key benefits:

1. Fosters Community: Shared experiences and traits create a foundation for building communities. Commonality can bridge diverse backgrounds, allowing for more inclusive and supportive social environments.

2. Reduces Isolation: In an era where loneliness is increasingly common, finding common ground with others can mitigate feelings of isolation. The Health Resources and Services Administration reports that loneliness and social isolation can be as damaging to health as smoking 15 cigarettes a day (HRSA, 2020).

3. Promotes Empathy: Understanding that we share more similarities than differences can foster empathy and compassion, leading to healthier interpersonal relationships.

Case Study: The Power of Common Spaces

Urban planning and public spaces offer insights into the power of commonality. Studies show that well-designed public spaces that cater to the common needs of diverse groups can improve community ties and individual well-being. The Project for Public Spaces has found that accessible and inclusive public spaces are crucial for vibrant communities (Project for Public Spaces).

Conclusion: Reclaiming Commonality

What is wrong with being common? Absolutely nothing. It is a fundamental aspect of our identity that we share with billions of others. By embracing our commonality, we can reject the superficial pressures to constantly differentiate ourselves and instead, appreciate the profound simplicity of just being human. In doing so, we not only accept ourselves but also each other, fostering a more empathetic and connected world.

In a society that often prioritizes the extraordinary, rediscovering the value in the ordinary is not just an act of acceptance, but a celebration of our shared human experience.