Do you have a tendency to criticize yourself? Let me guess. You do…if not often, then at least from time to time. I don’t think there is a person who doesn’t question or second guess their abilities, looks, values or some other aspect of themselves, their life or business, every so often. Would you agree? We all have what I call our inner critic.
If this part of our self is left unattended and nurtured in the wrong way, it can become a distractive force in our lives and hold us back from achieving what we want and desire. The reason I decided to write this article is that there are too many of us who give into the voice of the critic, and let our dreams and desires fall by the wayside because of “our imaginary friend.” :)
I think putting ourselves down is greatly supported by the general conditioning from our society that tells us not to stand out, not to feel overly confident in ourselves, not to be unique, and “follow our bliss.”
If you are yourself, you are confident and dare to live your life according to your own definition. You will be challenging other people just by your presence to do the same and not everybody will be comfortable with that. I have personally experienced this. It can be easier at times to play your excellence down and question or criticize yourself to fit in. Because after all, everyone wants to be loved, to belong, and to be accepted by someone, right?
You must have heard this statement at some point in your life, “Who do you think you are?” or “Why do you think you are special?” There are other versions of this, but you are getting the drift. The point I’m making here is when we hear something too often, we end up believing it, even if it isn’t so. After awhile, we see it as truth and start functioning from it.
There is a great example from the movie “Pretty Woman.” In the scene where Richard Gere and Julia Roberts are in bed, talking and sharing stories about their lives, he tells her how special and great he thinks she is and how come she doesn’t see that. Julia Roberts’s replies: “It is always easier to believe the bad stuff about yourself.” Is it ringing a bell for you?
So my intention here is to help you:
What are the symptoms of an overly active inner critic?
Most of us experience some of these symptoms at one time or another. After all, we are human, we are here to learn and evolve, and as I always say, “We are perfect with our imperfections.” However, if after looking at this list you can identify with most of the symptoms on a regular basis, then it may be time to look into taming your inner critic, so it doesn’t get in the way of your life.
What can you do if your inner critic is taking over and it is time for it to take that long overdue break?
So there you have it. Put it to work and let me know how it goes. I would love to hear from you. :)
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