Constructs and Why You Date the Best Worst Thing

Why are you always attracted to that bad Boy? Why do others always try to save the one they are dating? Or again some just like people they can boss around? What creates this love at first sight with the last guy you would want to date?Constructs!Constructs. What is the psychological brick and mortar that makes your world view? When was it formed and How?Imagine growing up in a house that is made of brick. All the interior walls are made up of brick. A child growing up in a house like that with limited travel might happen up its friends house one day and ask this question. This child might point at a large flat plain running from floor to roof with some shelves and paintings on it and ask, “What is that?”Her little friend might answer “That is a wall.”

Which the other child might answer, “No it ain’t!”That brings the response “Yes it is!”To be finished with “No it ain’t! It is not made of brick!”Well all children under four are forming views or constructs of what the world is. Not only what a wall is, but more important to this article, what is a Man or Woman? For little girls, all the men in their life before the age of four will make up their construct. Their Father, Uncles, Brothers, Friends of the Family, Grandfathers, Mail Man, and any little boys in their lives. Men will have their Mother, Sister, Aunts, Friends of the Family, Day Care Providers, Grandmothers, and little girls create the idea of a woman in their minds.

For good or bad, these are what makes our instant attraction. Either exactly like them or the total opposite. Until we see and understand how we formed our attractions, we can not think for ourselves what we are attracted to. We have to analyze our constructs of the opposite sex.

Another important time in our attractions form during puberty. One problem that could arise if we feel we have to become adults too soon and save one of our parents. This could be the seed of co-dependency. Some women go hunting for their lost childhood by saving men who fell of the cliff before they could grab them back. In some weird hope if they save the boyfriend or husband they will save their father. Who they hope will save them. But you have to save yourself before you save anyone. It all starts in seeing the construct of men/woman from your childhood. For a Good Fairy tale on this, read Bluebeard and How it Affects Certain Women’s Dating habits.