Coping With Relationship Breakups

One of the things that keeps some people from getting into a relationship is coping with relationship breakups. Usually these are people who have been hurt bad or have seen a great friend go through a bad break up. So if you're in the middle of a break up, it's no wonder that you're feeling bad.

There's a laundry list of things you can and should do to get over the break up, but you have to understand and come to terms with the fact that it's going to be hard and that it will take time to get over this. Just how long it will take to get over this relationship is hard to say. I've even seen a chart that gave recovery times based on the length of the relationship--it was kind of silly. Everyone is different, we all respond differently to something like this.

Give yourself some time to be sad and cry, but don't wallow too long or start a huge pity party. Start seeing some friends--have some fun. You might want to clear out stuff from your home that reminds you of your ex. If it makes you feel better burn it. If not put it in a box and stick it somewhere out of sight.

When I broke up with my wife I dove back into my artwork that had been neglected while we were married. It really gave me something to focus on and appreciate my new freedom. Could there be something that you've been neglecting or you haven't pursued. Especially helpful would be if the pursuit was something you didn't do because your ex wasn't into you doing it.

It's tough but if you just keep moving forward, things will get better and you'll soon realize that life will get back to normal. It will be different for sure and at some time down the road it might even be better.