He dumped me for no reason

It is never easy to come over feelings of rejection. It can cause a trauma that is long-lasting and very painful. Even if you get healed, scars are visible for years. Scars that are left behind after wounds have healed are not going to go away so easily. You have a feeling of inadequacy inside and speak to yourself 'he dumped me' far and few between some midnights.

We do not come to terms with feelings of rejection coupled with shame, so easily. Why it is so? Perhaps,

"Love is so short, forgetting is so long".

Love is like a game for most people nowadays. They play it with many tricks and maliciousness. Some have fairly in their mind when they will dump you even when they have not even talked to you. They choose their prey wisely. Most of the time their preys are shy, reserved and quiet in nature. It is a cat rat game. There is a prey and a predator. The result is nothing less than complete destruction. In the end you are left with the question 'why he dumped me?' Most of time you do not find an answer.

There is nothing so damaging to your overall well-being and mental health than being discarded by someone for no particular reason. The thing is you want explanations and the other person is not willing to provide any. It seems he/she is guided by whims instead of pure reason. You do not know where to go and what to do. You can not see the logic behind it. It would be so easy to handle a breakup if it is supplemented with strong and genuine reasons. You know the intentions of the person and are able to accept his excuse of not being able to move forward together. You can part your ways and know your future destination as well as past history. You do not have to work with unusual complexity.

When he has dumped you for no reason you start questioning your own reason. You doubt your own intellect and manners, wondering you might have upset him or caused some trouble for him. While apparently there is none. What you can do with such a situation gets lot more tricky. You want to find answers while he is unwilling to answer. You can not get him to reply to you. You have lost your worth. He has discarded you. There is no solution except acceptance of the fact that he has dumped you once and for all.

It is the matter of trust that you should have focused on in the first place. A person who is doing so probably has no remorse. He has no internal anxiety or a feeling of guilt. Proneness to guilt is what keeps people from doing harm to others. You should have trusted one who was prone to feeling guilty instead of getting submitted to someone who has no heart or shame. He probably has enjoyed your condition. Do not give him more material to enjoy. Do not cry before him. Be more strong and stiff than ever. Be stronger but have some amount of flexibility also. If he has dumped you for no reason, he will likely do the same afterward. Do not expect a change in his behavior. He will continue doing what he has done to you to others.