Surviving A Relationship Break Up – 3 Little Known Secrets That Will Save You!

It is so unfortunate that so many couples break up and suffer so much pain all because they forgot how to communicate their true feelings to each other. All the little problems became bigger problems and the daily drama simply piled up and pushed each other over the edge. It’s usually only after time has passed that couples realize the awful mistake they made. The mere act of surviving a relationship break up allowed them to come to this realization.

Imagine what it would be like to be able to turn back the hands of time and start all over fresh and new.

Of course I cannot physically manipulate time but I do have some little known relationship secrets that will truly save you and give you that second chance.

But before I reveal the secrets, I must mention some observations that have become all too common:

What’s fascinating to me about relationship conflict is that men are much harder to convince than women are that relationship reconciliation is even a possibility. Men assume that once a relationship reaches a breaking point, there is truly no point of return. If they would only learn to ask more I’m quite sure they would be astounded at the opportunities.

Women on the other hand are far more open to the possibilities of reconciliation, and seem to better understand that after time has passed relationships can and should be revisited to better comprehend what went wrong.

So taking this all into consideration, let me explain how the following 3 secrets are designed to allow any chances of reconciliation after surviving a relationship break up that can be understood by both men and women and also viewed as true opportunity by both.

• You must understand your role in the break up. It’s crucial that you take a step back and really think hard and long about the details of your break up and what you believe caused the break up. Then you must be responsible enough to admit to yourself that beyond the finger pointing and accusations that you were just as much to blame for the break up as your ex was. After all I’m sure you know as well as anybody that it takes two to tangle. Facing all this is a huge first step towards the chance for reconciliation.

• Allow sufficient time to miss each other. This is where the respect necessary for step #3 is reborn and cultivated. Right after a break up there is a massive outflow of emotions that pretty well run the gamut. Communication with each other at this stage is futile because it is entirely negative. You cannot help each other at this point and there is never anything nice or constructive to say so the best thing to do is to shut it down and drop out of site for awhile until the dust settles.

You need time to reach that stage where you actually wonder what the other is doing. Then this healthy curiosity usually will lead to the first signs of actually missing your ex.

From there you may begin to communicate through mutual friends and actually feel a bit of excitement when you perceive your ex to be attempting to respond.

This usually continues until the curiosity gets a bit painful in it’s own rite and you begin to actually miss your ex enough to get the nerve to initiate personal contact. At this point it’s wise to keep the communication brief and simply set up a time to meet.

• Respectfully reintroduce yourself to your ex. If you have followed these steps then your ex should be truly grateful to hear from you and willing to meet and greet. It’s at this point that you two gracefully acknowledge the changes and stages you have gone through to this point and try to determine how the scene will play from here.

If you are both pretty well on the same page you will sense it instantly because you will feel the chemistry ooze between the two of you.

If you two are on two totally different pages however, it gives you maybe for the first time in your life the chance to exercise the patience and understanding that your relationship has possibly longed for.

If things simply don’t work out then have no other recourse than to admit defeat and bow out. But if you do it will style and grace, it will be acknowledged by your ex and if you feel that the acknowledgment is strong enough, that there is still a spark…go for it.