Marriage Questions About Counseling: what happens at marriage counseling? (Part A)

 Have you been thinking about marriage counseling, asking yourself what happen at marriage counseling?

If you have, you probably remember the times when you and your husband were happier.

Woman that have the problem you have, that search the net for an answer, might find that beside the old traditional marriage counseling (that has many different approaches by it elf), there are many e-courses that claim to have the ability to fix your marriage fast and in low cost of money.

This series of articles will examine the marriage counseling process, for a survey about some leading e courses you can check the link at the bottom of this article. (for one of the leading e course about saving your marriage you can check the link below).

Well here we start:

"What happens at marriage counseling?" - Part A

Marriage counseling, also known or referred to as marital therapy, is a general description to a counseling process to partied in relationship of marriage, in a great variety of methodologies, depends on the counselor's identity.

The counseling is aimed to solve a specific problem of marriage life (like affaire, love life problems) or to solve general relationship problems (like constant arguments, bad emotions about the relationship history and so on), or a combination of the two of them.

You must always remember that the counseling relationship is a relationship of three people, you, your husband or your therapist/counselor. This is a little tricky because many couples find themselves in a position when one of the partners is having a common language with the therapist and your partner does not. This can affect the whole process and cause further problems.

In general, first few meetings of couples with their therapist are dedicated to diagnosis of the problem, now the diagnosis itself is actually depend on the counselor methodology, for example:

• Several counselors focus their attention on relationship dynamics - this approach assume that the behavioral dynamic that revealed in the counseling meetings are the same dynamic patterns that happen at home, and there for the focus is on the dynamic itself, and couples need to learn to manage the dynamic.

• Other counselors may focus on deep subconscious and psychological issues, assuming that solving those for each one of the individuals, will solve the relationship problem (Freudian therapist).
• Some counselors combine the above approaches or combine a "type" theory of dome sort.

Bottom line, there is a great importance to the counselors identity for the kind of treatment you will get.

After these first few meetings, the counseling will be focusing on trying to build a safe intimate environment in which the sides could start talking about their real difficulties, needs, emotions and so on.

In order to achieve this, counselors might use one or a combination of methodologies (or techniques) like:

• systemic coaching

• psychotherapy

• psychotherapy

• communication theory

• Psychoeducation

• relationship education

In the next articles in this series, we will detail these techniques, talk about how long should a couple go to marriage counseling?, and more.

See you in part B.

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