Emotional bullying is not used exclusively between children. Adults use relational aggression against their kids and teens.
What would you do if an educator did this to your child at school?
Is any of this OK with you? Would you call the school? Make an appointment with the principal? Contact the press or get a lawyer? It’s bullying, you know. It’s actually emotional abuse. There is unwanted behavior, unequal power, and one- sided action. Kids look up to adults, and when an adult betrays a child’s trust, damage occurs. It’s like stealing the child’s soul.
There are better ways to guide kids than bullying them to do their homework, pay attention, or attend to their responsibilities. It all starts with respect. So let me tilt this post a little differently.
What does it mean if you, the parent, did this to your child at home?
Does the title of parent change anything? If you were appalled by the thought of a teacher doing any of this to your child, nothing changes for the child just because you’re related. It’s still bullying. It’s one-sided, unwanted behavior with an imbalance of power. It hurts, and it steals the soul. It’s all about respect. And respect begins at home.
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