Tulsa Divorce Attorneys - How To Train For Divorce

Divorce is a lot like a boxing match.  Please do not misinterpret what we are saying here.  Divorce is not ‘sport’ and it is not meant to be taken lightly as if it is ‘sport’.  However, what are saying is that like a boxing match, divorce is a place where coaching gets done, punches get thrown, and referees have to break up squabbles. 

Regardless of whether you agree with us or disagree with us about the use of the boxing analogy, we recommend that before you begin the divorce process you ought to take time to ‘train’ yourself mentally so that you can toughen up for the divorce.  Does this sounds harsh?  If you answered YES, then we congratulate you on being a normal, healthy human being.

In divorce court, you see it all the time: one spouse is a shark and the other spouse is a panda bear.  The spouse who is the shark takes advantage of the panda bear by manipulating emotions, sending mixed signals, and ultimately in the end, pulverizing the panda bear spouse.

If you are reading this article and you are saying to yourself, ‘Hey I do not want to be a panda bear in the court room’, then take our advice and continue reading.  In the rest of this article you will find valuable information about how to ‘train’ for divorce. 

Tip Number One:  Plan Ahead.  Spouses who ‘dive into divorce’ headlong without giving any thought whatsoever to the process end up finding themselves grossly underprepared and in a very vulnerable position in the court room.  Take our advice, before you ‘dive into divorce’, spend a lot of time planning ahead.

Tip Number Two: Build A Support Group.  The support group can include family members, friends, co-workers, church members, etc.  The support group will prove very valuable once the divorce process gets into the deep and heavy because at that point in time you are going to need a lot of support and you are going to need guidance from a person or persons who are outsiders and can provide an objective perspective.

Tip Number Three: Build A War Chest.  Your war chest does not have to include tens of thousands of dollars but it does need to include enough money so that you can pay the legal fees and support yourself comfortably throughout the divorce process.   And of course, the bigger the war chest the better, but again having tons of money in the war chest is not essential.