Behaving on a First Date at the Best Boston Restaurant - Part 2

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In part one of this series, we discussed how to dress, behave etc. on your first date at the Best Boston Restaurant you can afford. In particular, we were discussing appropriate attire. Be sure to inquire about the dress code before you meet at the restaurant. You don’t want to show up at a business-casual bar wearing a tux. In fact, I think it’s pretty safe to say that you should leave the tux in the closet no matter the venue. It is, however, my personal opinion that it is always better to be a little over dressed than a little underdressed. Some of my (scrubby) friends wholeheartedly disagree with me on this point but in the end it comes down to how you carry yourself. If you know how to walk, talk, and generally be confident and suave, you could walk into Abe and Louie’s Steak House and convince half the guests that you own the place. I know you’re wondering, “How do I walk, talk and be confident?” The key, as far as I can tell, is faking it until you make it for real. If you don’t feel confident during the date, she’s going to notice and so will the other people. Keep your posture straight. Allow yourself a little self-satisfied smirk now and then to get people wondering, “Wait a second why did he smile like that? Was he laughing at me? What’s he got up his sleeve?” You want everyone else, including your date, on his or her toes while you appear to be squarely on your feet. The whole confidence thing takes some practice so don’t worry if you cannot nail it right off the bat. You will get better the more you apply it.

 

            Now you are walking tall, looking sharp, and talking smooth. Not a bad start if you ask me. Take some time to affirm yourself as a big shot to the lady and capitalize on this new image. Try mentioning how you frequent some of the Best Boston Restaurants and don’t hesitate to talk about your accomplishments. You need to make the most out of your strong suits. If you’re a funny guy, keep her laughing. This is a tried and true method for success. If you’re an intellectual, bedazzle her with your enormous vocabulary or talk at length about literary analysis. If your utterly bland but have tons of money, don’t despair. Talk about your phenomenal wealth and your endless garages full of cars that cost more than a large house.

 

            Ok guys; listen up because this is a very important part of your game. Whether you like it or not, you’re going to end up doing some listening. In fact, you are going to be doing a hell of a lot of listening. That is a good thing, though. The more she talks, the less opportunity you have to say something unforgivably stupid and ruin the evening. If I had to summarize my advice into a few main points I would offer this: Focus on things you know you can talk about. Learn how to dress well at any cost. Do some research on your restaurant ahead of time so you can impress her and make a positive and lasting first impression.