Getting Over an Affair

Getting over an affair is extremely difficult because the impact is so immense.   

The effects include depression, hyper anxiety, weight loss, lack of sleep, anger, and a feeling that is closely aligned to bereavement.  In many ways it is a bereavement, because it is the loss of a loved one.

Perhaps the most astounding thing about infidelity is how little the general public know about its impact on the victim.  This hasn't been helped by the general media who portray it as though it were light entertainment.

Non the less, that is the what the victim has to deal with whilst they are getting over an affair, and that may feel like a very lonely place to be.  It is as though the only people who really understand are those who have been through it, and that may well be true.

For that reason, many internet forums offer some kind of solace for those who are getting over an affair, although sometimes the best advice isn't offered there.  For that, the councellor may be a wiser choice,  there are several guide books available by experienced advisors, and more recently we have seen the introduction of hypnotherapy CD's.  .

There are several suggestions that I would like to offer which the victim of an affair may like to consider.

Meditation can unify one's energy and thus bring about some much-needed peace and calm as you are getting over an affair.

EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) is a system of tapping on various body parts and consequently releases trapped energy.  You can find many examples of how to do it on YouTube, and I think you will be surprised how powerful it can be. 

For getting over an affair, exercise is a great way to release stress and where possible it would advisable.  If you don't feel able to exercise then you should at least go for long walks.

You would also gain some respite by simply talking your problems through with family and friends.  Seek out the ones who are most calm about your situation and who can simultaneously provide you with love and support.

In the first phase of getting over an affair, you will be in considerable shock.  This will eventually ease down, but it may be extremely disorientating, to say nothing of painful, in the early stages.

It is also very likely that you will experiece all manner of dreadful thoughts and images that will put you under immense stress.  You can change this, by using techniques from NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming), and Hypnotherapy recordings.

Getting over an affair will very likely take you many months and possibly years, but it is possible.  Some people manage to rebuild their relationships, whilst others must seperate.  Whatever the outcome, the victim can find many sources of assistance and should actively seize them in an endeavour for future happiness.