So how do you stay calm,
composed and keep self esteem, in a stressful situation? Here are some tips, you might want to contemplate, to help you to start, improving your life.
Visualize yourself as a Dart Board. Everything and everybody else, in your life, may become Dart Pins, at some point in the future. These dart pins will damage your self esteem and make you sink, in ways, you won’t even remember. Don’t let them damage you, or take control of you. So which dart pins, should you elude?
Dart Pin 1 : Negative Work Place
Beware of the “dog eat dog” belief, where everybody else, is fighting, just to get ahead. This is where ungrateful and selfish, people usually thrive. No one will acknowledge your efforts, even if you miss lunch and dinner, and work overtime. It is common, that your employer, is not concerned about your welfare. Avoid this, it will destroy, your self esteem. Competitiveness, can be very mean and is in most parts, of our society. Be strong enough to compete, but in a fair competitive nature, that is.
Dart Pin 2: Other People’s Behavior
Bulldozers, brown nosers, gossipmongers, whiners, backstabbers, snipers, Hypochondriac's, controllers, naggers, complainers, exploders, patronizers, sluffers… all these types of people, will create bad vibes, for your self esteem, as well as to your self improvement plan.
Dart Pin 3: Changing Environment
You can’t be a fish out of water ? Changes stimulate our paradigms. It tests our flexibility, adaptability and changes the way we think. Changes will make life hard for awhile, it may cause stress, but it will help us to find, ideas, to better our-selves. Change will be there forever, we must be receptive to it.
Dart Pin 4: Past Experience
It’s fine to cry and say “ouch!” when we experience pain. But never let pain develop itself, into fear. It may grab you by the arms, and swing you around, making you even more confused. Handle each failure and mistake, as a lesson and try not to repeat them.
Dart Pin 5: Negative World View
Focus at what you’re looking at. Don’t be too involved, with all the wrongs, of the world. In developing self esteem, we must learn how to make the most, out of worst situations.
Dart Pin 6: Determination Theory
The way you are and your behavioral characteristics, is said to be a mixed end product, of your inherited characteristics (genetics), your rearing (psychic), and your everyday surroundings, such as your partner, the company, the prosperity or your circle of friends. You have your own identity. If your father is not successful, it doesn’t mean you are not going to be successful, too. Learn from other people’s experience, so you’ll never have to confront, the same mistakes.
Occasionally, you may want to speculate, if some people, are born leaders or positive thinkers. NO. Being positive, and remaining positive, is a choice. Developing self esteem and finding ways, for self improvement, is a choice, not a rule or a talent. The "Power's that Be", would not say, – “John, you may now have the permission to develop self esteem and better yourself.”
In life in general, it's not easy, to stay tough, especially when happenings and the people around you, keep knocking you down. When we get to the battle field, we should choose the correct baggage, to take along and shields to use, and select those, that are bullet proof. Life’s choices, give us variation, of more choices. Along the road, we will get hit and hurt. And having a bullet proof shield, ideally means ‘self change’. The type of change which comes from within. Freely. Protection or Self Change, changes 3 things: our attitude, our behavior and our way of thinking.
Developing self esteem will ultimately, lead to self improvement, if we begin to become, responsible for who we are, what we own and what we do. It's like a flame, that should slowly spread, like a brush fire, from within and out. When we develop self esteem, we take control of our mission, values and discipline. Self esteem brings about self improvement, true evaluation, and determination. So how do you begin to build the foundation, of self esteem? Be Positive. Be Satisfied and Be Happy. Be Grateful. Never miss a chance, to praise. A positive way of living will help you develop, self esteem, your beginning point, to self improvement.
PS : Mind over Matter, until nothing Matters, be more alive, then Thrive !
All the best, stay safe and Cheers :-)
