Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back by Saying No To Being Friends!

So you just heard those words "We can still be friends" and you hang onto those words like they're a safety harness being thrown over a cliff to stop you from falling.

As much as you want to hang onto those words and say Yes!

Don't.

Something is not better than nothing.

The glimmer of hope in thinking that you get to stay in his life is not your safety harness, but the noose around your relationship's neck.

You do not want to be relegated to the category of "friends." Where he gets to keep in touch, perhaps moving over to the category of "friends with benefits" every now and then.

There's little chance you can go from lover to friends back to lover.

That's like trying to make a comfy pair of slippers turn into sexy stilettos. It ain't going to happen.

If you want to stay in his life by being friends just to keep the connection up, so you can influence him, or keep track of what he's doing, then don't.

You will only get hurt.

You will see him move on, with the security of you being his buddy, into new relationships and you will only get twisted into jealous knots.

You need to value yourself enough to say "No, sorry I don't want to be friends."

You valued the relationship enough to not lessen it by going to that comfy half way point.

He either wants you or he doesn't.

So make him want you.

Make him see you as those sexy stilettos and not the comfy slippers. You're not his security blanket to venture out from. He needs to feel what it's like out there without you as a safety net.

So stop pretending that you're ok with him calling the "friends" shots.

There are lots of strategies to show him what he's missing out on being in a relationship with you.