No matter how difficult we find it to implement the practice of unconditional acceptance in our lives, the word "difficult" doesn't mean "impossible." Each and everyone of us can get to put unconditional acceptance in practice on a daily basis and reap the benefits of a much happier and peaceful life.
Even if we know very well that our resistance to reality only adds to our unhappiness and misery and that no difficulty or problem is ever solved by fighting "what is," unconditional acceptance often seems to be so out of our reach.
And yet, there is only one way to happiness and that is to cease resisting things which are beyond the power of our will and control.
Good news is no matter how difficult we find it to implement the practice of unconditional acceptance in our lives, the word "difficult" doesn't mean "impossible." Each and everyone of us can get to put unconditional acceptance in practice on a daily basis and reap the benefits of a much happier and peaceful life.
For many of us, the main obstacle lies in the fact that we often confuse unconditional acceptance with submission and apathy... but there’s all the difference in the world. While submission and apathy fail to distinguish between what can and what cannot be helped, unconditional acceptance makes that distinction. Put differently, when we practice unconditional acceptance, we first acknowledge the facts of a situation, and then we decide what we are going to do about it. Simple as that.
Another barrier to unconditional acceptance is to erroneously believe that simply to stop resisting "what is" automatically compels us to like, agree with, or approve of it. Once again, nothing could be further from the truth. Unconditional acceptance simply means we acknowledge "what is" without making ourselves needlessly upset and miserable about it. The mere fact that we don’t like, agree with, or approve of "what is" doesn’t have anything to do with our ability to unconditionally accept and make peace with it.
I believe that the roadmap for happiness can be summarized in three simple words: to unconditionally accept.
Remember: in no way unconditional acceptance means we have to submit to "what is." Let’s refuse to make ourselves needlessly miserable and unhappy by resisting and fighting "what is." However, if there is an action that we feel would help to improve "what is," by all means let’s take this action!
On a final and more spiritual note, let me share with you the famous Serenity Prayer by Reinhold Niebuhr which, in my humble opinion, summarizes so well what unconditional acceptance is all about:
"God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change;
the courage to change the things I can;
and the wisdom to know the difference."
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What if I told you that not only is it possible for you to stand up for yourself and assert your rights with calm, serenity, and unconditional acceptance of others, but that you can also do all of this without making yourself miserably angry? That it is all a simple matter of perspective, a simple matter of understanding the laws? Let me explain.