What Do You Do If Your Boyfriend Wants to Take a Break?

By the time you hear those words, "I think we should take a break", your boyfriend has probably made up his mind. These words might hit you fair between the eyes and come out of the blue. Or you might have been having problems but you never expected those words would come so soon. And with such surety.

At this stage your boyfriend has probably 99% made up his mind, so there's no point in falling to the floor and hanging onto his ankle for dear life and wailing as he drags you across the floor.

First thing you need to do is agree with his idea for a break. Don't get into an arguing match. He's only just offering you up those words as a token gesture probably made out of guilt.

Tell him that you think he's right.

Yes you do feel you both need to take a break and get some space. He'll be surprised and wonder why it is that you saw things that way too, because so far he's only seen things his way. Any protests you would make here would only go in one ear and out the other because he's made up his mind.

By taking control and agreeing to the break you're one upping your boyfriend and getting in first and leaving him wondering what is going on in your life that had you agreeing with him so readily and easily. He was expecting a fight or some kind of objection.

Saying that he wanted to take a break was perhaps his way of saying he wants to see what's out there but making sure that the door is ajar to come back incase he decides to change his mind. Perhaps he wants to see if the grass is greener. Perhaps he thinks there must be something better than he has now.

With you agreeing to take the break he's not so sure anymore if you will be there if he wants to come back. And because he's probably been thinking for a while that he wants to take a break, and only told you his final decision, not involving you in the process, he's now wondering if you perhaps had been thinking the same way he had been.

You've also got in first and not allowed him the power to announce what his plans are because he's going to be left wondering what your plans are and if you have already set them in motion.

It feels horribly counter-intuitive to not show him how you really feel but that's what he was expecting. Play him at his own game and what he doesn't know is going to make him think that perhaps he didn't know all of you after all and that will perk up his interest