Perimenopause is a transformative period in a woman's life, often filled with physical and emotional challenges. For me, my hot tub became a sanctuary, providing much-needed relief and introspection. This article delves into the perimenopausal journey, exploring the unique needs and experiences women face as they transition into this new phase of life.
During perimenopause, my hot tub became an essential part of my daily routine. Immersing myself in the warm, peroxide-treated water once, twice, or even three times a day, I found solace. Surrounded by towering coniferous trees and blooming bushes, I would sit quietly, feeling the gentle breeze on my face and listening to the birds sing. This ritual provided a much-needed respite from the demands of daily life.
Perimenopause was a period of introspection for me. While I continued to fulfill my responsibilities, I found myself craving solitude. Despite enjoying the company of close friends, family, and the women and children at the transition house where I worked, I often felt the need to withdraw. I spent time alone, taking solitary walks, reading, watching television, and indulging in cookies. This time of inward focus was essential as I prepared to embrace my new identity.
Dr. Christiane Northrup, a renowned expert on women's health, emphasizes that perimenopause is a call to address unfinished business. The hormonal changes during this time affect the temporal lobe of the brain, altering our perception and mood. These changes can enhance our intuitive abilities and prompt us to reevaluate various aspects of our lives. Source: Dr. Christiane Northrup
Despite the profound changes women experience during perimenopause, society often fails to acknowledge this transition. Unlike other cultures that have rituals to mark significant life passages, our society tends to ignore the identity shifts that accompany hormonal changes. As a result, many women feel compelled to "just get on with it" or resort to medication to manage their emotions.
I was fortunate to work with Judith Duerk, author of "A Circle of Stones," during my perimenopause. Judith advocates for women's communities that provide support, nurture, and understanding during various life stages. This concept resonated deeply with me. Source: Judith Duerk
There are numerous ways for women to slow down and seek support during perimenopause. For me, a weekly women's group in my small community provided a space for relaxation and open communication. We would listen to meditative music and drumming, allowing us to speak freely without self-monitoring or external feedback. Other women might prefer intimate gatherings with close friends over a cup of tea or coffee.
It's crucial for women to voice their experiences and demand the time and space they need during perimenopause. By sharing our stories and advocating for ourselves, we can gradually shift societal perceptions and create a more supportive environment for future generations.
Perimenopause is a significant and often challenging phase in a woman's life. Finding ways to cope, whether through solitude, community support, or personal rituals like soaking in a hot tub, can make a world of difference. By acknowledging and addressing our needs, we can navigate this transition with grace and wisdom.
Ellen Besso, M.A., R.C.C.www.ellenbesso.com info@ellenbesso.com 800-961-1364
